For those who love the Creator and choose to walk the MaShiYaCh way, having the over standing that they are an open target all while being humble (willing to be humiliated) is paramount. Time is short and there is NO place in the army of YaHuWaH for ones pride and fleshly desires. Due to the subject of marriage not being properly taught, most people rush into a BaRiYTh (H1285 covenant, treaty, pledge, ordinance between ALaHiYM and man) like marriage, become one-flesh (have sexual intercourse / join RuWaCh’s) and then years later realize their choices was outside of how YaHuWaH originally created it. So out of frustration they pray for YaHuWaH to get them out of a situation that THEY chose to be in, instead of having faith knowing that the grace YaHuWShuWA is sufficient in ANY situation (YaHuWShuWA 1:9 “Joshua” and 2 Corinthians 12:9). Being accountable and obedient to YaHuWaH is huge and this is why the Christian church is so weak. They don’t want anyone to keep them accountable for their actions, especially when it comes to their marriage so they run from the truth, hold to emotion, play the victim and often times decide to fix or rectify the situation them selves, via divorce. We who are ambassadors of truth stand on the front line for YaHuWaH ALaHiYM over standing that are lives are exposed. The MaShiYaCh hung on the tree naked and EXPOSED to the world, so we who walk in his footsteps are NOT exempt. ShAuWL (Paul) boldly stated that people should know his affairs and this is for edification purposes for the body of MaShiYaCh (Ephesians 6:20-24). Those of us who are in a QaDaSh marriage have a huge role to play, and this is NOT a game to the most high. How can the light of YaHuWaH’s QaDaSh shine bright if they are living in their own bubble, NOT sharing or publishing YaHuWaH’s truth in ALL they do!
Many start this race in marriage, proclaiming to the world and to a “GOD” that they will adhere to the convent and complete the course. But along the way due to distractions, they stumble and fall off. Not wanting to take accountability for their choice of action, so many pray to the Creator to remove them from their race, so they can start another marathon. They choose the easy way out, instead of having faith in YaHuWaH (like scripture says) for strength and to deal with it in HIS timing.
14 What doth it profit, my brethren, though a man say he hath faith, and have not works? can faith save him?
Divorce and remarriage has always been a sensitive subject, especially, within the Christian churches, one that doesn't get discussed often and when discussed doesn't fully align with scripture. Due to the misunderstanding of the word of truth, most marriages are looked at like pieces of clothing. If a shirt does NOT fix anymore after a person has gained weight, throw it away and get a new one that fits. This worldly concept is very dangerous and is out of YaHuWaH’s order. Marriage is NOT a laughing matter and is NOT to take lightly. For those who are currently in a marriage or those who are seeking to marry AND have made up their minds to live for YaHuWaH and His truth YaHuWShuWA (the word made flesh), pray as seek guidance of the scripture and of those who have a QaDaSh marriage. First, ALWAYS seek ye first the kingdom of ALaHiYM and his righteousness (NOT our own), and everything else after that YaHuWaH will take care of. So step one, put and DO YaHuWaH’s work FIRST and be faithful in that, and in due season (if he sees fit) THEN he may bring you one who will help fulfill your purpose, which is YaHuWaH’s work! When petitioning YaHuWaH for a spouse, ask YaHuWaH to give you who HE wants for you, and in HIS timing, NOT who YOU think YOU want, in YOUR timing. When we are lead by the RuWaCh and simply obey the word, there is NO confusion, but when we are impatient, and let our emotions fuel our actions (especially in chaotic situations we chose), THEN we are out of YaHuWaH’s order. We as YaHuWaH chosen should not be worrying about finding a spouse, or arguing / crying to YaHuWaH on why He hasn’t given you what YOU want! Focus on HIS work and HIS will first (NOT our own), your time will come when YaHuWaH deems you read! STOP WORRYING!
MaThaThiYaHuW 6:31-34 “Matthew”
24 No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve ALaHiYM and mammon.
25 Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment?
26 Behold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feedeth them. Are ye not much better than they?
27 Which of you by taking thought can add one cubit unto his stature?
28 And why take ye thought for raiment? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they toil not, neither do they spin:
29 And yet I say unto you, That even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these.
30 Wherefore, if ALaHiYM so clothe the grass of the field, which to day is, and to morrow is cast into the oven, shall he not much more clothe you, O ye of little faith?
31 Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed?
32 (For after all these things do the Gentiles seek:) for your heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need of all these things.
33 But seek ye first the kingdom of ALaHiYM, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
34 Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.
We as the elect should NOT be following YaHuWaH’s word because we want something in return, NO we obey YaHuWaH because we love him. Its like a child who obeys his father regarding doing his chores, ONLY because that child knows he will rewarded for doing so. Whether that child receives praise or not for doing work that is required of him is relevant. A child doing chores in the fathers house is mandatory work. Today’s modern day society is so driven on back pats, outward recognition or praise, and the “Hey look at me” or “Look what I got” mentality. Show us one time in scripture where Ha’MaShiYaCh YaHuWShuWA or his disciples ever showed that type of mindset. They were humble, and diligently put the things of kingdom first. Yes the disciples knew if they obeyed and did the work of YaHuWaH their reward was ShaMaH, but they didn’t obey because they wanted things of THIS earth bestowed upon them. understand this, If YaHuWaH NEVER brings us a spouse because HE has us doing HIS work, SO BE IT! This truth walk is NOT about us, its about esteeming YaHuWaH and us as his elect showing the world obedience! This is why the truth walk is so difficult and NOT popular, it requires obedience NOT sacrifice.
In the world people proudly sacrifice their time, money, integrity and even their entire family to gain that promotion at their job, or give everything up to make it big in Hollywood. When its comes to the things of the kingdom, YaHuWaH doesn’t want sacrifice, he wants our obedience (ALaPh ShaMuWAL 15:22-24 “1 Samuel”)! The masses today are so quick to divorce because its a quick fix, but like we stated earlier “This truth walk is NOT easy!” and you have to be called to walk this path. Scripture reminds us that many are called but FEW are chosen (MaThaThiYaHuW 22:14 “Matthew”). This also pertains to a QaDaSh marriage, few are chosen to hear the truth, and even fewer STAY in marriages to allow YaHuWaH to get the esteem in how HE sees fit, NOT in how they think YaHuWaH should get the esteem. Its takes a strong, confident and ShaLuWM filled RuWaCh to obey YaHuWaH especially in unequally yoked situations that people put themselves into. Also just because a couple IS equally yoked in a worldly marriage, doesn’t mean it will last. Without the RuWaCh of truth (YaHuWShuWA) in both vessels, that marriage will NEVER hit on all cylinders. What good is it to have a V12 sports car that looks great on the outside, but inside the engine only fires on two cylinders. When tested in a drag race against another REAL sports car, it will for sure lose!
1 John 2:4
1 John 3:6
In the ABaRiY (aka Hebrew) culture the man was and is ALWAYS the head of the home. Divorce for an ABaRiY couple was NOT an option nor was it even a though. The ABaRiY lifestyle and culture was centered on severing their ALaHiYM YaHuWaH in truth, this why scripture warned against marrying outside the ABaRiY culture. In the ancient ABaRiY culture, NO matter what happened in regards to the wife, the man reminds in position and doesn’t deviate the course. NEVER once do we read or are we commanded that the man is authorized to leave a marriage.
I got your 6
We who are in the truth look with the RuWaCh (spirit) eyes and we over stand that this a RuWaCh battle. The same goes for a QaDaSh marriage, Ha’ShaTaN wants to kill YaHuWaH’s elect on the battlefield. A husband and wife on the battlefield in the truth vow to have each others 6 (6 o'clock meaning back or blindside). When the husband leaves his wife, he removes her covering leaving her 6 defenseless and open to the enemies attack. Can you image running into battle, sword drawn only to find that your were left to fight alone.
Intermarriage was quite frequent in early ABaRiY society. The scriptures is full of ABaRiY men marrying foreign women. Abraham marries Keturah, who couldn’t have been a daughter of Israel as Israel (Abraham’s grandson) was yet to have been born. Judah marries Shu’a the Canaanite. Joseph marries Asenath, daughter of the Egyptian priest Potiphera. MaShaH (Moses) marries Zipporah (daughter of the Midian priest Jethro) the kings of Judea married all sorts of foreign princesses, and the list goes on and on.
Despite this apparent openness to intermarriage, the disapproval of this practice within the ABaRiY culture was apparent. Foreign women are often presented as temptresses, and in some stories they are clearly the heroine (Ruth of Moab and Tamar, the wife of Judah). In addition to presenting foreign women as temptresses, some biblical stories flat-out caution against marrying foreign women, none more than the story of Samson.
1 And Samson went down to Timnath, and saw a woman in Timnath of the daughters of the Philistines.
2 And he came up, and told his father and his mother, and said, I have seen a woman in Timnath of the daughters of the Philistines: now therefore get her for me to wife.
3 Then his father and his mother said unto him, Is there never a woman among the daughters of thy brethren, or among all my people, that thou goest to take a wife of the uncircumcised Philistines? And Samson said unto his father, Get her for ME; for she pleaseth ME well.״
4 But his father and his mother knew not that it was of YHWH, that he sought an occasion against the Philistines: for at that time the Philistines had dominion over Israel.
This seemed to be a case of “love at first sight” for Samson. He saw this woman and he instantly wanted to marry her. Samsom said “She pleases me well” literally, “she is right in my eyes.” What Samson really cared about was how things looked to himself, not how they looked to YaHuWaH. Love at first sight is a powerful, but a dangerous thing. It is entirely possible for us to fall in love with someone that we have no business falling in love with, which was exactly the case with Samson. Love at first sight feels wonderful, but doesn’t last in its initial form forever. We can be attracted more to the feeling of love itself than the person we focus upon, whom we don’t really know at first sight.
As we read Delilah pleased Samson’s flesh, and bound by romantic feelings / emotion, many people demand from YaHuWaH a mate out of YaHuWaH’s will. In demanding a Philistine wife, Samson showed a sinful disregard for his parents and for YaHuWaH’s caution regarding women from pagan nations. His parents attempted to council him otherwise, but Samson allowed himself to be swept by his emotion, passion and was determined to bring into fruition his own desires. Everyone knows that this doesn’t end well for Samson. Delilah gives him a haircut, leading to his demise. Their are warnings in scriptures but it doesn’t forbid marrying non-Israelite outright (this is OUR free will). But in Deuteronomy 7 it lists seven Canaanite nations who are completely off-limits (the Hittites, Girgashites, Amorites, Canaanites, Perizzites, Hivites, and Jebusites).
DaBaRiYM 7:1-5 “Deuteronomy”
1 When YHWH thy ALaHiYM shall bring thee into the land whither thou goest to possess it, and hath cast out many nations before thee, the Hittites, and the Girgashites, and the Amorites, and the Canaanites, and the Perizzites, and the Hivites, and the Jebusites, seven nations greater and mightier than thou;
2 And when YHWH thy ALaHiYM shall deliver them before thee; thou shalt smite them, and utterly destroy them; thou shalt make no covenant with them, nor shew mercy unto them:
3 Neither shalt thou make marriages with them; thy daughter thou shalt not give unto his son, nor his daughter shalt thou take unto thy son.
4 For they will turn away thy son from following me, that they may serve other gods: so will the anger of YHWH be kindled against you, and destroy thee suddenly.
5 But thus shall ye deal with them; ye shall destroy their altars, and break down their images, and cut down their groves, and burn their graven images with fire.
The command to YaShRAL to not intermarry with the pagan nations STILL applies today. A believer in the truth is wise not to marry someone who does not believe the truth (2 Corinthians 6:14). It isn’t because those who do not believe are not lovable, aren’t good enough, not worthy of love, or that they are somehow incapable of being a good marriage partner, no. It is simply because being a lover of truth means that YaHuWShuWA Ha’MaShiYaCh is the most important thing in your life; and when a a lover of truth and a non-believer join together, you have two people who disagree on the most critical and important thing in life.
If someone goes against YaHuWaH’s plan and marries an unbeliever or if someone becomes a believer before their spouse, there are specific commands applying to their situation. The Apostle ShAuWL (Paul) clearly wrote that the believer must do all that is possible to stay in the marriage, and be the best spouse they can be (1 Corinthians 7:10-16). YaHuWaH did use Samson mightily; but ALaHiYM used Samson despite his sin, NOT because of it. YaHuWaH may have used Samson in a far greater way if he made himself a clean vessel according to the principle of 2 Timothy 2:20-21.
25 Who changed the truth of ALaHIYM into a lie, and worshiped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. AMaN.
This is a trap that so many married couples get caught in, they get swept away by all the emotion and physical affection by their relationship. This sensory overload can cause YaHuWaH to be quickly put on the back burner. In udder bliss of this newness, a person can fall on the snare, thus putting THEIR spouses wants ahead of YaHuWaH wants or works (unknowing). This course of action intern causes them to reap the benefits, this is a very dangerous cycle. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to please your spouse, but the spouses wants (or OUR own) should NEVER come before YaHuWaH’s work, period. We as warriors for the Creator should NEVER go dark or become M.I.A when working for ABa YaHuWaH! When YaHuWaH was NEVER a persons fiery center, it is very easy for their core to cool down, getting filled with fleshly desires of this life! Remember YaHuWaH does not BaRaK people to fulfill THEIR happiness, the BaRaKaH’s come to fulfill YaHuWaH’s purpose (YaShAYaHuW 43:1-7 “Isaiah”).
YaShAYaHuW 43:7 “Isaiah”)
7 Even every one that is called by my name: for I have created him for my glory, I have formed him; yea, I have made him.
Babylon conditions peoples minds on how relationships should look, but this far from what it was originally created by YaHuWaH in ShaMaH. Just because someone has been through various marriages or has endured a long somber one, doesn’t mean they finally deserve that perfect spouse. It takes two to tango and sometimes people choose their mate too quickly, or they chose to the let the home get outta hand, thus having to live with the aftermath(which may take several years to manifest). If someone makes an unwise or selfish choices regarding their mate, this doesn’t mean they are under attack by the enemy or that the world is against them. Often times its simply means they are outside of YaHuWaH will, thus they are reaping what THEY sowed (Galatians 6:7). When people have the attitude of entitlement, in emotion they justify that they deserve this perfect spouse and fairy tale wedding (seen on TV and Disney). They then follow the trends of the masses wanting elaborate proposals and huge, wedding ceremonies. Thousands (sometimes millions) of dollars are spent for this one day or week event, all to find it ends a number of years later. NOT all attacks on marriages are from the devil, so people stop blaming the enemy and take accountability your choices. The truth is the ultimate lie detector, and If a couple says their marriage ordained (by God, or EVEN YaHuWaH), then it will totally line up with the word (YaHuWShuWA made flesh). This is why watching the fruits of others are so critical (MaThaThiYaHuW 7:16-20 “Matthew”). Scripture remind us that EVERYTHING YaHuWaH does is in truth, which will ALWAYS line up with His son.
4 For the word of YHWH is right; and ALL his works are done in truth.
If you say you are walking in the truth and your marriage is smooth, and easy with no strife (from friends, family and loved ones), then maybe you aren’t on Ha’ShaTaN’s (the adversaries) hit list! The enemy will attack ALL those who stand boldly and proclaim YaHuWaH and YaHuWShuWA in all aspects of their lives, those are the REAL threat to their kingdom. Those who are lukewarm, stagnant, distracted and inconsistent in the things of YaHuWaH, Ha”ShaTaN is NOT worried about. Not that YaHuWaH cant make it a fairy tale, but take an account of all the relationships in scripture of all those who obeyed YaHuWaH or YaHuWShuWA. NOT smooth or easy, and for those who decided to walk after YaHuWShuWA, they put forth action! They obeyed and let go all their Babylonian conditioning (music, talking, eating, lifestyle, relationships, pagan worship, etc). We are NOT to look back or take back the stench of Babylonian and represent it to YaHuWaH. I challenge any husband to take underwear from his ex wife, wash it, put it in a box, wrap it with a bow and present it to your wife!
The Law of MaShaH
People often misunderstand Mark 10:9 only looking with carnal eyes, but we in truth over stand that when you allow the RuWaCh to guide you, it will lead to unto all truth (YaHuWChaNaN 16:13 “John”). We know that everything has an origin and when it comes to marriage that same applies. Marriage was created by ALaHiYM in ShaMaH thus Mark 10:9 is not talking about being put together here in the earthy realm. We know there are lots of couples coming together "in holy matrimony" to fulfill THEIR earthly desires (success here on earth, nice house, nice cars, financial stability). A very high percentage of these couples have major marital issues later down their years and the statics shows that many want out and choose divorce. Now on the flip side we have personally seen that even those who DO get married in the true names of YaHuWaH and YaHuWShuWA also end up in divorce. So for all those who say Mark 10:9 is talking about YaHuWaH joining couples in "holy matrimony" here on earth, in the name of YaHuWaH, we witnessed this to be 100% false! This is a false doctrine and we will explain why as we go. There are many couples who in "holy matrimony" marry in all kinds of false gods names that lasted longer then the couple that got married in the true name of YaHuWaH! So again this shows that just because a couple marry in the true name of YaHuWaH doesn’t mean the Creator put it together! We must being to allow the RuWaCh of truth (YaHuWShuWA) guide us in everything we do, and NOT self / emotion. When it comes to making the decision on who we eternally join our souls with, let YaHuWaH choose in HIS timing, other wise you could be damning two or more souls.
Divorce statics take in 2018 are as follows:
42-45% percent of first marriages end in divorce
60% of second marriages end in divorce
73% of third marriages end in divorce
We understand MaShaH took it upon himself to try to rectify the putting away of wives. Giving a certificate of divorce according to the Mosaic law was allowed in YaShRaAL (Israel), but carefully regulated. Under MaShaH’s law, the marriage contract cannot be simply dissolved as soon as one partner wants out; there must be cause for a certificate of divorce. Under MaShaH’s law, even when a certificate was given, no where does it state that a believer can remarry unless certain terms were breached. In Mark we read that the Pharisees where trying to maliciously test YaHuWShuWA regarding the topic of divorce under the Mosaic law.
2 And the Pharisees came to him, and asked him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife? tempting him.
3 And he answered and said unto them, What did Moses command you?
4 And they said, Moses suffered to write a bill of divorcement, and to put her away.
5 And YaHuWShuWA answered and said unto them, For the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept.
6 But from the beginning of the creation ALaHiYM made them male and female.
7 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife;
8 And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.
9 What therefore ALaHiYM hath joined together, LET NOT MAN put asunder.
Lets take a look at the English word “man” in this verse. In the Greek its G444 ἄνθρωπος
Now lets take a look at the English word “man” in the ABaRiY, H120 which is אדם
(these ABaRiY letters "אדם" transliterated into English consonants is "DMA" or "ADaM")
When humbly make time to learn YaHuWaH’s truths, all of OUR confusion is removed. Notice we used the word “OUR”, because YaHuWaH is NOT confused regarding HIS word, He know exactly what He means. When WE attempt to rightly divide YaHuWaH’s word using pride or carnality (and NOT the RuWaCh of truth), we are lead astray. When we make time to educate ourselves regarding this verse we NOW know that ἄνθρωπος and אדם means: a human being / male or female, the species mankind (plural), the two fold nature of man (body and RuWaCh), human individuals, someone, persons, one (two parts joined).
Now lets take a look at the ABaRiY word for “asunder” which is H914 BaDaL
and in the Greek it is G5563
In order to over stand Mark 10:9, we MUST go back to Ba’RaShiYTh (In the beginning) which is in RuWaCh
BaRaShiYTh 1:26-27 “Genesis”
26 And ALaHiYM said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth.
27 So ALaHiYM created man in his own image, in the image of ALaHiYM created he him; male and female created he them.
We read that what YaHuWaH put together (created in ShaMaH, NOT in holy matrimony on earth) LET NOT MAN put asunder, meaning that in YaHuWaH’s original blue print, a husband or wife CAN NOT depart, be divided in two, withdraw or divorce (male and female are one whole RuWaCh). So what YaHuWaH created which is a whole being, male and female, masculine and feminine, LET NO MAN (as in mankind, human race or an individual person) put asunder or divorce!
BaRaShiYTh 2:24 “Genesis”
24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be ONE FLESH.
They shall become one flesh: This passage forms the foundation for the Bible’s understanding of marriage and family. Both YaHuWShuWA (MaThaThiYaHuW 19:5 “Matthew”) and ShAuWL (Ephesians 5:31) quoted it in reference to marriage. “The institution of monogamous marriage, home, and family as the basic medium for the propagation of the race and the training of the young is so common to human history that people seldom pause to reflect on how or why such a custom came into being.” Adam and Eve are the original family or blue print and this is YaHuWaH’s ideal family. This isn’t polygamy, concubinage, the keeping of mistresses, adultery, homosexual co-habitation, promiscuity, living together outside the marriage bond, or serial marriage. This is YaHuWaH’s IDEAL for the family, and even when people don’t live up to it, it is STILL important to set it forth as YaHuWaH’s ideal.
The idea of one flesh from the masses standpoint is taken by many to express sexual union. While sexual union is certainly related to the idea of one flesh, it is only one part of what it means to be one flesh. There important spiritual dimensions to being one flesh, and ShAuWL (Paul) makes it very clear that a sexual union has one flesh implications. Even when we don’t intend so, a man having sex with a prostitute causes his RuWaCh to join with hers (1 Corinthians 6:16). Husband and wife become true “one flesh” under YaHuWaH’s favor. In extramarital sex, the partners become “one flesh” under YaHuWaH’s curse.
In this sense in YaHuWaH’s eyes, there is no such thing as “casual sex.” Every sexual relationship at the very least creates a one flesh bond. The bond will either be something beautiful or it will be something grotesque. Just because sex is taking place in marriage doesn’t mean it is truly fulfilling YaHuWaH’s purpose of bonding together a QaDaSh one-flesh relationship. They shall become one flesh: Though an initial bond in a one flesh relationship can be formed at the first sexual relationship a couple has, the fullness of what YaHuWaH wants to do in the one flesh relationship takes time. The deepest and most intimate bond, are the two becoming one in marriage. The man cleaving to his wife. This is basic, this is the beginning of things, this is how YaHuWaH started it, this is how YaHuWaH intended it to be.
Man had difficulty living up to YaHuWaH's plan and to YaHuWaH's order. When YaHuWShuWA came, He sought to bring man back to YaHuWaH's basic design and purpose; and thus, YaHuWShuWA was teaching the sacredness of the marriage vows and the endurance of the marriage vows. The Pharisees, recognizing now a difference between what YaHuWShuWA was saying and what the law of MaShaH said, were seeking to trap YaHuWShuWA, showing that He was teaching other than the law. What did YaHuWShuWA do? He went back and antedated MaShaH’s law. YaHuWShuWA said, "In the beginning it wasn't so. For in the beginning, YaHuWaH made them male and female, and for this cause shall a man leave his mother and father and shall cleave to his wife and they two are no more twain, but one flesh. And it was because of the hardness of your hearts that MaShaH said, let him give her a writing of divorcement". Because man's heart was hard and would not come to YaHuWaH's divine ideal, the law of divorce was established but that was NEVER YaHuWaH's original plan.
The English word “twain” in the Greek is G1417 δύο and means two (or separate pieces)
So many get married wanting to keep their old life, but just like when we come into the knowledge of the truth and choose to be QaDaSh, we are now new and one with the MaShiYaCh. We let go of the things of our old life and start a new.
Scripture says “In the beginning it was NOT so”. We obey and come back to the beginning, in which YaHuWShuWA also went back to, the basic purposes of YaHuWaH in marriage. Because of the hardness of man's hearts and his inability to obey YaHuWaH, we can now look at society (and the world today) and clearly see the multitude of problems that have arisen out of the hardness of mans hearts, leaving the basic beginning purposes of YaHuWaH in marriage. There's something wrong today with our whole concept of love. In today’s modern day, you frequently hear a husband or a wife say, "Well I never really loved them, I don't think I loved them, I don't think I ever loved them". If you don’t love yourself, you cant love back, so DON’T get married! Where is your head? What are you thinking about? That's a terrible and selfish thing to say to your mate, "Well, I don't think I ever really loved you". It's tragic.
Today’s modern day dating system is a joke, and one of the basic problems is that couples are getting deeply involved physically without even knowing each others RuWaCh. Relationships are predicated too much upon the physical and not enough on the spiritual. One characteristic of true love is that it is patient and it will wait for what YaHuWaH ordained in HIS timing. Any person that tries to hustle a someone into bed before their married TRULY doesn't really love you with the kind of agape love that you want your a spouse to love you. Get rid of them. That's the whole problem, couples are getting married without really knowing each other, without truly loving each other and without truly understanding what marriage is in YaHuWaH’s eyes. Too much emphasis is placed on not being able to be alone, combining incomes for financial stability, physical aspects, material possessions, self pleasure, pride and fleshly desires which is NOT true love. True love will wait and there should be beautiful openness in a QaDaSH marriage. ADaM and ChaWaH (Eve) were both naked and they weren't ashamed, why? Because they shouldn't be, the two are one flesh.
Giving your spouse a bill a divorce (for uncleanness or adultery) still puts a person back under the Mosaic Law (Law of MaShaH), which was fulfilled when YaHuWShuWA died on the tree. MaShaH permitted separation, but YaHuWShuWA reminded them that in separation you continue married and anything you do with another partner (who is not your spouse) is considered adultery. We also understand that adultery can mean spiritual, but we will get to that. The word “separation” in the Greek is G630 apoluo from G575 and G3089 meaning; to free fully, i.e. (literally) relieve, release, dismiss (reflexively, depart), or (figuratively) let die, pardon or (specially) divorce. It is used many times throughout the New Testament such as when Pilate wanted to “apoluo” YaHuWShuWA (Luke 23:20), meaning let him go, NOT divorce him. In AShaH 28:18 (Acts), ShAuWL (Paul) is referring to “being let go” by the Romans, NOT being divorced by them. Apoluo is referring to being separated from, while bill of divorce refers to a legal divorce of marriage. Even with cause, divorce was never to be seen as a preferred or easy option. The ABaRiY word H3748 KaRiYThuWTh, translated to the English word “divorce” has as its root the idea of "cutting apart, cut off a body part or covenant, behead, cut out, eliminate, kill, permit perish". This is the amputation of that which is one flesh.
YaRaMiYaHuW 3:6-8 “Jeremiah”
8 And I saw, when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away, and given her a bill of divorce; yet her treacherous sister Judah feared not, but went and played the harlot also.
Here we read that YaHuWaH saw YaShRAL committed adultery and He put her away. We know YaShRAL didn’t commit physical adultery against YaHuWaH so it must mean spiritual. We see in the ABaRiY that the English word “adultery” is H5003 NAPh נאפ (these ABaRiY letters "נאפ" transliterated into English consonants is "PAN" or "NAPh")
What we find is that adultery can also be spiritual via idolatrous worship. Remember back then nations were actually worshiping objects (made of wood and stone) and lifting hands and songs of praise to the sun (BaAL), moon, tree’s, sky, etc. These people were in daily communion with their false idolatrous gods, literally bowing down and giving esteem to this false ALaHiYM’s. We see that these types of actions are grounds for divorce.
Now let’s take a deeper look at the English word “divorce” in ABaRiY is H3748 KaRiYThuWTh
KaRiYThuWTh root word is H3772 KaRaTh
In the above verse (YaRaMiYaHuW 3:8 “Jeremiah”) we read YaHuWaH “put her away” (“her” meaning YaShRAL / Israel), which in the ABaBiY is the word H7971 “ShaLaCh”, meaning to send away, cast out or to put away!
In the ABaRiY culture divorce as something like cutting up a living body, like a surgical operation. Think of it like an operation that is so violent that it cannot be done without almost killing a person; but in extreme cases it is a desperate and necessary remedy. It’s more like having your legs cut off than like dissolving a business partnership. MaShaH commands that any divorce be sealed with a certificate of divorce. In other words, it was not enough for a man to just declare "we're divorced" to his wife. The divorce had to be recognized legally just as the marriage had been, so a certificate of divorce (a legal document) must be issued, and properly served (put in her hand).
Lets take a quick look at the word “marriage” which in ABaRiY is H5772 AuWNaH
So this is telling us that in the ABaRiY culture anyone who was living and sleeping / having sex together were considered married in YaHuWaH’s eyes. This is again why its extremely important to make the time to learn the truth and to ask YaHuWaH to give you a spouse in HIS timing. The number of true adulteries that YaHuWaH continues to see (since HIS creation of the one RuWaCh’s in ShaMaH) must be heart breaking for him.
In DaBaRiYM 24:1 (Deuteronomy), MaShaH talks about the uncleanness a husband may find in his wife, this is described as grounds of divorce in the Mosaic Law and indicates that a certificate of divorce could not be written for just any reason. It had to be founded on two important clauses. In ancient times some Rabbis (teachers) defined uncleanness as anything in the wife which might displease the husband. At the time of YaHuWShuWA, some Rabbis selfishly taught that if a wife burned her husband's breakfast, he could divorce her. But YaHuWShuWA carefully and properly defined what uncleanness is, the master said, “whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery (MaThaThiYaHuW 19:9 “Matthew”). YaHuWShuWA rightly understood that uncleanness refers to sexual immorality, a broad term referring to sexual sin, which includes, but is not restricted to, sexual intercourse with someone who is not their spouse. The ABaRiY word H2932 TaMAH, (translated to the English as “uncleanness”) means sexual immorality.
Let’s take a look at its root word H2930 TaMA
Porneia root word is G4203 porneuo
According the Law of MaShaH, if a husband finds some uncleanness in his wife, he has the right to give his wife a certificate of divorce. But he is NOT obligated to do so. It must also be that she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some uncleanness in her. In other words, it must be that the husband is SO troubled at his wife's sexual immorality (not the occasional partaking of pagan customs) that he simply CANNOT look upon her with favor in his eyes any more. The lack of favor in his eyes must be because of her uncleanness. Notice one of the ways the spouse can become unclean is by way of idolatry. In the ABaRiY the word for idolatry is H8655 TaRPhiYM.
Just like in the Greek word Porniea, the ABaRiY word also talks about idolatry, which is any image, object, a person (like a healer), a family idol (something passed down / tradition) or shrine that is worshiped or H7812 “ShaChaH” in the ABaBiY. .
So when people go to church to sing, praise, raise their hands to, kneel to pray / bow down and give esteem to the false name and image of Jesus, they are idolaters. We also read in the Greek that a person can defile themselves by eating things that are sacrificed unto to idols. Scripture is very clear regarding idolaters
1 Corinthians 6:9-11
9 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of ALaHiYM? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor IDOLATERS, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,
10 Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of ALaHiYM.
11 And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the master YaHuWShuWA, and by the RuWaCh of our ALaHiYM.
Like me mentioned earlier, let us NOT mistake idolatry with the occasional pagan practices of the masses (New Years, Valentines Day, Easter, Mothers Day, Fathers Day, 4th of July, Halloween and Christmas). DON’T get it twisted, both are frowned upon by the most high YaHuWaH, but idolatry is the constant worship and bowing down to a image, object, a person (like a healer) or shrine. There is a difference between worshiping a Christmas tree (as did the worshipers of the groves in ancient times) then when someone puts up a pagan Christmas tree for two months out of the year. Again both are a stench in YaHuWaHs nostrils and both cause separation with the Creator. Now that we have educated ourselves on what spiritual adultery is, these occasional acts of pagan customs DO NOT give grounds for a believer to divorce their spouse!
YaHuWShuWA explained in MaThaThiYaHuWaH 19:8 (Matthew) that MaShaH permitted men to divorce their wives (because of the hardness of their hearts), but from the beginning it was NOT so. BaRaShiYTh 1:26-27 (Genesis) reminds us of this, because it takes witness that ALaHiYM made them male AND female (one whole RuWaCh). Take note, the RuWaCh’s were created BEFORE ALaHiYM created the physical body from the dust of the earth, and THEN was given the breath / RuWaCh of life (BaRaShiYTh 2:7-24 “Genesis”). Due to disobedience (the fall of ADaM / mankind), there was a division (refer to Paul audio teaching) thus symbolically splinting the RuWaCh apart. YaHuWShuWA rectified the matter of divorce and reduced the ordinance of marriage back to its origins / RaShiYTh: “They two shall be one flesh”, not to be easily separated, and therefore divorce is not to be allowed. Only in the case of adultery (sexual and idolatry), which breaks the marriage covenant; but he that puts away his wife upon any other pretense, causes her to commit adultery, and him also that shall marry her when she is thus divorced. Those who lead others into temptation to sin, or leave them in it, or expose them to it, make themselves guilty of their sin, and will be accountable for it. This is one way of being partaker with adulterers (Psalms 50:18).
If a woman did not have a hard heart, she would never commit sexual immorality against her husband, and there would be no need for divorce. If a husband did not have any hardness in his heart, he could forgive and still look upon his wife with favor in his eyes, even though she was guilty of sexual immorality / fornication / uncleanness / occasional pagan customs. But because YaHuWaH knows there is hardness in our hearts (both in the offending and offended parties), YaHuWaH permits divorce, but from the beginning it was NOT so! Some Rabbis back in ancient times taught that it was the duty of a man of ALaHiYM to divorce his wife if she displeased him, but both MaShaH and YaHuWShuWA make it clear that YaHuWaH permits divorce in certain circumstances, but NEVER commands it. Regarding biblical grounds for divorce, according to 1 Corinthians 7:15 (abandonment by an unbelieving spouse), the believer certainly does have permission to divorce, and YaHuWaH does not "hold it against them", but again the believer must stay in the position of marriage. Most people think that in ancient YaShRAL (Israel), only husbands had the right to divorce their wives, and wives did not have the right to divorce. In Mark 10:12, YaHuWShuWA, “says and if a woman divorces her husband and marries another”, clearly he is saying a wife had the right to divorce.
One of the many things learned through this journey and prayer with ABa YaHuWaH, that we must remember is that YaHuWShuWA came to bring division between those who have chosen to walk this set apart life and those who have not, regardless of the type of relationship between the QaDaSh and the worldly. So, when a person comes into the knowledge of the truth, chooses to walk in truth, is pure about it and their spouse refused too, then they must trust in YaHuWaH to rectify it, NOT themselves. We often forget that marriage is a two way street and the man being the head is accountable for the order of the home. If things got out of hand over the years because the man was weak or slack while on duty, he must take accountability.
Joey walks to his friends house to play one day. They both are feeling creative so they decide to make various pictures using paint. They both end up getting paint everywhere, splashing paint on the walls and in the carpet. Joey realized just how much work its going to take to clean up the room, so he leaves to avoiding cleaning up the mess he helped to create! As a believer, if we DON’T have faith that YaHuWaH will rectify our marriage, how HE sees fit, and in HIS timing, why even believe in the Creator.
ABaBiY 11:6 “Hebrews”
6 But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to ALaHiYM must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.
YaHuWShuWA 1:9 “Joshua”
9 Have not I commanded thee? Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for YHWH thy ALaHiYM is with thee whithersoever thou goest.
2 Corinthians 12:9-10
9 And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of MaShiYaCh may rest upon me.
10 Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for MaShiYaCh’s sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong.
Additionally, YaHuWShuWA’s blood that was shed on the tree brings freedom (mentally and spiritually) to all those who WANT to be free, are willing to be obedient to his word, and vow to live the QaDaSh (set part) life. With this freedom comes eternal ShaLuWM NO MATTER the circumstance, so stand and let YaHuWaH work it out! Scripture reminds us that WITHOUT faith it is impossible to please YaHuWaH ALaHiYM.
Re Marriage according to Scripture
DaBaRiYM 24: 2-4 “Deuteronomy”
2 And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man's wife.
3 And if the latter husband hate her, and write her a bill of divorcement, and giveth it in her hand, and sendeth her out of his house; or if the latter husband die, which took her to be his wife;
4 Her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled; for that is abomination before YHWH: and thou shalt not cause the land to sin, which YHWH thy ALaHiYM giveth thee for an inheritance.
5 When a man hath taken a new wife, he shall not go out to war, neither shall he be charged with any business: but he shall be free at home one year, and shall cheer up his wife which he hath taken.
In this example, the women’s former husband who divorced her must not take her back. This is a strong law, saying that if a divorced woman marries again, she could not return to her first husband, should her second marriage end through divorce or death. To break this law was an abomination before YaHuWaH. It seems that it might be a good thing for the first husband and wife to get back together. But this command is made because YaHuWaH wanted both marriage and divorce to be seen as serious, permanent things. One couldn't be married or divorced casually; it had to be carefully thought out because it was permanent. This law would also strengthen the second marriage; it would discourage a spouse from thinking they might as well just leave their second marriage and go back to their first partner.
Scripture does talk about remarrying in DaBaRiYM 24:5 (Deuteronomy). We understand that if a man or women lost their spouse due to death (via sickness or killed in battle) remarriage was allowed. Back then being home for one year was the way of honoring and BaRaK’ing the marriage covenant. YaHuWaH allowed men who were newly married to be exempt from military or other state service for one year. Bringing happiness to the wife is an important job for every husband. This does NOT mean the wife is put on a pedestal or that she takes first place over YaHuWaH or YaHuWaH’s work in the husbands life. NO, the wife is the help mate created to assist the husband to fulfill YaHuWaH’s work. In Ephesians 5 we see that YaHuWaH emphasizes the role of the husband which is essential oneness between husband and wife (once again one flesh / one RuWaCh like in the beginning). The QaDaSh wife longs to take part in and do what her husband does, which is to serve YaHuWaH in all her deeds, just like her husband. Mind, temple and RuWaCh are on the same page and everything they do is to be in line with ABa YaHuWaH. The husband cannot make his wife happy without also bringing ShaLuWM into his own life and home. Conversely, he cannot bring misery into the life of his wife without also bringing misery into his own life. For the QaDaSh wife their lives should be so intertwined with the Heavenly Father YaHuWaH, that when their QaDaSh husbands look upon them, they see a reflection of themselves! Why, because again the mans other RuWaCh was first created by ALaHiYM as one piece, in the ShaMaH, in the RaShiYTh. The women comes from the rib of ADaM, and what is the ribs main purpose, to protect, especially the heart. A YaHuWaH centered, ShaLuWM filled and QaDaSh coupe is the foundation for a happy home, for we know scriptures reminds us that a bitter or contentious wife makes for a miserable home.
19 It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.
15 A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike.
9 It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.
Warning Against Adultery
17 who has left the partner of her youth and ignored the covenant she made before ALaHiYM.
MaShaL 5:1-23 “Proverbs”
1 My son, attend unto my wisdom, and bow thine ear to my understanding:
2 That thou mayest regard discretion, and that thy lips may keep knowledge.
3 For the lips of a strange woman drop as an honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than oil:
4 But her end is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword.
5 Her feet go down to death; her steps take hold on hell.
6 Lest thou shouldest ponder the path of life, her ways are moveable, that thou canst not know them.
7 Hear me now therefore, O ye children, and depart not from the words of my mouth.
8 Remove thy way far from her, and come not nigh the door of her house:
9 Lest thou give thine honour unto others, and thy years unto the cruel:
10 Lest strangers be filled with thy wealth; and thy labours be in the house of a stranger;
11 And thou mourn at the last, when thy flesh and thy body are consumed,
12 And say, How have I hated instruction, and my heart despised reproof;
13 And have not obeyed the voice of my teachers, nor inclined mine ear to them that instructed me!
14 I was almost in all evil in the midst of the congregation and assembly.
15 Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well.
16 Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets.
17 Let them be only thine own, and not strangers' with thee.
18 Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the WIFE OF THY YOUTH.
19 Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.
20 And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger?
21 For the ways of man are before the eyes of the Lord, and he pondereth all his goings.
22 His own iniquities shall take the wicked himself, and he shall be holden with the cords of his sins.
23 He shall die without instruction; and in the greatness of his folly he shall go astray.
Scripture is very clear that the husband is NOT to deal treacherously with the WIFE OF THY YOUTH!
MaLaKiY 2:11-17 “Malachi”
11 Judah hath dealt treacherously, and an abomination is committed in Israel and in Jerusalem; for Judah hath profaned the holiness of YHWH which he loved, and hath married the daughter of a strange ALaHiYM.
12 YHWH will cut off the man that doeth this, the master and the scholar, out of the tabernacles of Jacob, and him that offereth an offering unto YHWH of hosts.
13 And this have ye done again, covering the altar of YHWH with tears, with weeping, and with crying out, insomuch that he regardeth not the offering any more, or receiveth it with good will at your hand.
14 Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because YHWH hath been witness between thee and the WIFE OF THY YOUTH, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant.
15 And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a seed of ALaHiYM. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the WIFE OF THY YOUTH.
16 For YHWH, the ALaHiYM of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith YHWH of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.
17 Ye have wearied YHWH with your words. Yet ye say, Wherein have we wearied him? When ye say, Every one that doeth evil is good in the sight of YHWH, and he delighteth in them; or, Where is the ALaHiYM of judgment?
Ok lets break this down
The priests sinned by forsaking the wife they married in their youth, breaking the goal of marriage (she is your companion) and the bond of marriage (your wife by covenant).
Did He not make them one: The Bible continually comes back to YaHuWaH's goal and plan for marriage as revealed in Genesis 2:18-25. Essential to YaHuWaH's plan for marriage is the essential oneness between husband and wife. One important reason for this oneness is to establish a proper environment for raising YaHuWaH following offspring. There is no doubt that YaHuWaH hates divorce because it destroys what He loves - marriage is YaHuWaH's QaDaSh institution which He loves (Malachi 2:11). Specifically, we can say that YaHuWaH hates divorce for at least three reasons:
1. YaHuWaH hates divorce because it breaks a solemn vow
2. YaHuWaH hates divorce because it is harmful
3. YaHuWaH hates divorce because it illustrates apostasy and damnation
There is no doubt that YaHuWaH permits divorce in particular circumstances, though divorce is never commanded. YaHuWaH’s heart is always for repentance, forgiveness, and reconciliation in marriage. Yet because we are fallen and suffer from hardness of heart, YaHuWaH gives permission for divorce in two circumstances. Sexual immorality is valid grounds (Matthew 19:1-9), and so is desertion by an unbelieving spouse (1 Corinthians 7:10-16). Significantly, misery, unhappiness, poverty, or incompatibilities are never given as grounds for divorce. Where there is danger or abuse separation may be in order in accordance with 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, but the separated couple must live in complete faithfulness to their marriage vows, though they live as separate. If someone does not have Biblical grounds for divorce, YaHuWaH regards them as still married and any subsequent relationship is considered adultery (Matthew 19:8-9). It isn't that you shouldn't divorce for unbiblical grounds; you can't divorce for unbiblical grounds. Nevertheless, if someone divorces with proper grounds, then they are free to remarry (1 Corinthians 7:15).
Once again we see the ABaBiY H7971 “ShaLaCh”, meaning to send away, cast out or to put away, which YaHuWaH hateth!
When we look at the English word “Witness” in the ABaRiY we see H5749
So we read that YaHuWaH affirmed, bore witness, testified, warned, and lifted up the union of marriage, thus defending what he created in the beginning. He goes to say that
The English word “youth” in the ABaRiY is H5271 נעור NAuWaR
This is clearly telling us that people should NOT be dealing treacherously or departing their first spouse. Remember marriages in the ABaRiY culture was not like how we are accustomed here in today’s modern, materialistic, outward show, over the top weddings and proposals. Couples were married younger, raised in truth, more mature and were modest / humble.
The English word for “treacherous”in the ABaRiY is H898 BaGaD
This is telling the husband that they must NOT depart, be unfaithful, be deceitful, act covertly, dissimulate, or defraud (to trick) his wife. A women can defraud a man by the way that she dresses, talks, or acts. A man can defraud a women by improper touching or by talking about a marital commitment that he is not able or intending to carry out. The husband is NOT to dissimulate his wife meaning, to hide under a false appearance or to conceal or disguise one's true thoughts, feelings, or character. Example, the wife has gained a substantial amount of weight over the years. The husband knows this and is concerned for health:
wife - “Do I look fat in this dress?”
husband - “NO baby you look great!”
This is lie and if not truthfully addressed, this will grow into a bigger issue, lying will only to pacify the real problem. Lions are Lions (NOT weak) and will tell their Lioness the truth because he loves her. A true Lioness takes heed to the voice of her Lion and recognize it is in love and NOT a personal attack. Men have become weak in this modern day, forever putting the women above YaHuWaH, this is out of order! All throughout time nations, kingdoms and families have been torn apart ALL because men put the women first!
MaShAL 31:1-3 “Proverbs”
1 The words of king Lemuel, the prophecy that his mother taught him.
2 What, my son? and what, the son of my womb? and what, the son of my vows?
3 Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings.
ShAuWL talks to the assembly in Ephesus
25 Husbands, love your wives, even as MaShiYaCh also loved the assembly, and gave himself for it;
26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the master the assembly:
30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
Husband must show Agape love, which has to do with the mind: it is not simply an emotion which rises unbidden in our hearts; it is a principle by which we deliberately live. Agape really doesn’t have much to do with feelings – it has to do with decisions. You love unconditionally, NOT only if you are receiving gifts during a birthday or holiday, sex or feel good encouraging words.
Since they are one flesh a husband can spiritually cleanse his wife the same way the YaHuWShuWA cleansed the assembly when on the tree.
Scripture says that the husband is to love their wives as their won flesh, so if the man doesn’t truly love himself, he CANT fully love his wife, visa versa. Scripture gives wisdom saying that NO man hateth his own flesh but nourisheth and cherisheth it.
Lets take a look at the English word “nourisheth” in the Greek which is G1625 ἐκτρέφω
Lets go deeper and look at the root word G5142 τρέφω
This is telling us the man shouldn’t hate his own flesh but to nourish it, to the point that he supplies himself with knowledge and every thing convenient or good for him (RuWaCh and temple health). This mindset is to carry over to the wife, the husband is to nourish up to maturity, to support, to give suck (as to feed), to fatten and instill internal sustenance to their wives pertaining to the truth of YaHuWaH. The wife is the one who is kept, preserved, guarded, shielded, provided for by the husband. Ha’MaShiYaCh nourishes and cherishes the assembly, so the husband nourishes and cherishes the wife, and the wife should realize that is her position in the marriage. If the wife is straying from true doctrine, looking back on Babylon, touching tainting things (worldly talk or music, pagan worship / customs, etc ) she is to be corrected by the husband (as would a parent to a child). If the husband is lukewarm and doesn’t walk in the order YaHuWaH himself, or have a humble RuWaCh (not yielding to true correction) HOW can he lead his wife by example? As a man tills a garden, so should he his wife. seeding, watering, and pulling weeds is the continual task of a master gardener.
This doesn't mean the wife is worshiped over YaHuWaH.. The wive should never cause a husband to sidestep the work of YaHuWaH or distract the man from doing YaHuWaH work.
Some husbands think that because ALaHiYM said they are the head of the home and the wife is obligated to submit to them that they do not have to be humble, lay down their lives, and be obedience for the benefit of their wife. They need to understand the difference in thinking between worldly headship and the headship in ALaHiYM.
· Worldly headship says, “I am your head, so you take your orders from me and must do whatever I want.”
· in ALaHiYM says, “I am your head, so I must care for you and serve you.”
· Worldly submission says, “You must submit to me, so here are the things I want you to do for me.”
· in ALaHiYM submission says, “You must submit to me, so I am accountable before ALaHiYM for you. I must care for you and serve you.”
A man must love his wife as he would his body, as a part of himself. As Eve was a part of Adam, taken out of his side, so the wife is to the man because she is a part of him.
We ALL should be overjoyed to know that through the blood of Ha'MaShiYaCh YaHuWShuWA we are freed from ALL our past sins and disobedience which were done in our ignorance prior to being graced with the knowledge of the truth. The English word “atonement” is H3722 KaPhaR in the ABaRiY and means to cover, purge, make an atonement, make reconciliation, cover over with pitch, to coat, pacify, propitiate, atone for sin, make atonement for sin and persons by legal rites, to be covered over, to make atonement for, to be covered. YaHuWShuWA was and is the final lamb sacrifice and high priest.
YaHuWShuWA bore his blood on the tree as an atonement for those who sinned and want the way back to YaHuWaH. So this means ALL past sins or disobedience committed in IGNORANCE (or intentional) PRIOR to coming into the knowledge of the truth is wiped away when we repent and cry out ( שוע / “ShuWA” the last part of the saviors true name) unto YaHuWaH through His son YaHuWShuWA. Carnal lifestyles, divorced marriages, multiple lustful relationships, being raped or molested, murder, drug addictions, delving into occult practices, pagan idol worship (via worshiping Jesus in church), blaspheming the true names of the Creator and His son, etc. ALL cast into the sea to forever be forgotten.
MiYaKiYaHuW 7:18-19 “Micah”
18 Who is a ALaHiYM like unto thee, that pardoneth iniquity, and passeth by the transgression of the remnant of his heritage? he retaineth not his anger for ever, because he delighteth in mercy.
19 He will turn again, he will have compassion upon us; he will subdue our iniquities; and thou wilt cast all their sins into the depths of the sea.
However this does NOT mean people can begin divorcing their current spouse just because they are NOT living for the truth. NO, if you are in a marriage and have come into the knowledge of the truth and your spouse does NOT want to walk the path, scripture says they are covered because the believing spouse is in the truth. Be bold, stand strong and know YaHuWaH has you covered. The grace of his son YaHuWShuWA in us, is sufficient and knowing this FACT gives us ShaLuWM making us spiritually free thus being able to stand strong in ANY situation or chaos which becomes our calm. Did AiYuWB (job) leave his wife when she cursed YaHuWaH, NO! AiYuWB stayed the course and let YaHuWaH deal with it!
AiYuWB 2:7-10 “Job”
7 So went ShaTaN forth from the presence of YHWH, and smote Job with sore boils from the sole of his foot unto his crown.
8 And he took him a potsherd to scrape himself withal; and he sat down among the ashes.
9 Then said his wife unto him, Dost thou still retain thine integrity? curse ALaHiYM, and die.
10 But he said unto her, Thou speakest as one of the foolish women speaketh. What? shall we receive good at the hand of ALaHiYM, and shall we not receive evil? In all this did not Job sin with his lips.
ALL sins (when done in IGNORANCE or intentional PRIOR to coming into the knowledge of the truth) are cast into the sea to forever be forgotten when we choose to obey YaHuWaH and walk in obedience (MiYaKiYaHuW 7:18-19 “Micah”). DO NOT let ANYONE tell you that the blood of YaHuWShuWA doesn’t carry enough power to wash your prior sins committed in IGNORANCE! This is the whole purpose of the savior YaHuWShuWA’s death, to restore the breach between man and YaHuWaH due to the sins of our fathers, fathers, fathers. This is why calling on the true names of YaHuWaH through His son YaHuWShuWA are so critical, it brings REAL ShaLuWM, salvation and joy! NO other names have the power to wash a persons sinful RuWaCh clean!
atonement H3722 כפר (these Hebrew letters "כפר" transliterated into English consonants is "RPK" or "KaPhaR")
MiYaKiYaHuW 7:18-19 “Micah”
18 Who is a ALaHiYM like unto thee, that pardoneth iniquity, and passeth by the transgression of the remnant of his heritage? he retaineth not his anger for ever, because he delighteth in mercy.
19 He will turn again, he will have compassion upon us; he will subdue our iniquities; and thou wilt cast all their sins into the depths of the sea.
Chose this day to change your old ways and repent for your past sins. Declare unto YaHuWaH through His son YaHuWShuWA that you want to live the QaDaSh life and that you are willing to OBEY Ha’ABa (the father) in ShaMaH (heaven) YaHuWaH. Mind you, It WILL require a huge uncomfortable change, but YaHuWShuWA also had to something uncomfortable. We are NOT above the MaShiYaCh and we are NOT exempt, this is part of the truth walk. We CAN NOT receive something of great value unless we endure a great trial. NO MATTER what it looks like, NO ONE or NO situation should stear us away from obeying YaHuWaH!
ShaMuWTh 20:3-5 “Exodus”
3 Thou shalt have no other ALaHiYM’s before me.
4 Thou shalt not make unto thee any graven image, or any likeness of any thing that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth.
5 Thou shalt not bow down thyself to them, nor serve them: for I YHWH thy ALaHiYM am a jealous ALaHiYM’s, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth generation of them that
Under the law of MaShaH a spouse is permitted to divorce when
your spouse is performing pagan idol worship (G4202, G4203, H8655 and H7812) which is spiritual adultery unto YaHuWaH
your spouse commits physical adultery (any sexual act with someone of than their spouse)
In both cases you can give a bill of divorce to your spouse, BUT the believer who walks in the truth (YaHuWShuWA) must stay obedient, remain married, and uphold the covenant they made before man and ALaHiYM. They are to put ALL faith in YaHuWaH through HIS son YaHuWShuWA following Romans 8:28, knowing everything will work out for the good for those that love YaHuWaH and are called according to YaHuWaH’s purpose (which is to give all esteem to ABa through lives experiences). The grace of the master teacher YaHuWShuWA (which is in the believer) is sufficient, giving strength in ANY situation making them perfect (complete, needing no one) in their weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9). Knowing this FACT, gives the believer NO excuse to leave a marriage unless one or both of the above precepts are breached (EVEN then divorce is still NOT commanded by YaHuWaH). For those who truly walk the path of Ha’MaShiYaCh know that ABa YaHuWaH will work it ALL out in HIS timing and when HE sees fit. If ABa YaHuWaH does NOT choose to intervene, YaHuWaH is STILL ALaHiYM!
AiYuB 1:20-22 “Job”
20 Then Job arose, and rent his mantle, and shaved his head, and fell down upon the ground, and worshipped,
21 And said, Naked came I out of my mother's womb, and naked shall I return thither: YHWH gave, and YHWH hath taken away; blessed be the name of YHWH.
22 In all this Job sinned not, nor charged ALaHiYM foolishly.
Scripture doesn’t talk about a spouse who is being psychically or sexually abused, and we believe this is because in the ABaRIY culture, NO such thing would have happened. Maybe in other pagan nations this was a practice or even fetish, but among the ABaRiY they were not raised with such disrespect. The ABaRiY Lions loved their Lionesses and the Lionesses reverenced their Lions. These types of abuse is the workings of Ha’ShaTaN and back then if anyone caught wind that this was happening within the camp, someone would have gotten stoned! If someone is in the type of relationship and they come into the knowledge of the truth, and they truly began living it, YaHuWaH will make a way of escape for them. If after attempting council and the abuser chooses not to change, a divorce is in order, for the safety of themselves and a child (ren).
If you have left your spouse for anything reason other than above, you and your ex are now seen as adulterers in YaHuWaH’s eyes. NO ONE has a real magic crystal ball, and just because the marriage has always looked a certain way, we don’t know what YaHuWaH is doing in the background. The believing spouse may be the only way YaHuWaH can have the unbeliever see the truth. When someone takes matters into their own hands (due to emotion, frustration or distraction) they are telling YaHuWaH that HE is not working quick enough or within THEIR time frame. It’s very easy for a wife to leave her husband when she’s had several years of no love / support, or when she there’s another man who is wanting to love and support her with open arms. This is why when separation does occur, its critical we shut out everything and focus 100% on YaHuWaH! If not we can be sure that Ha’ShaTan also knows exactly what we desire, and you bet that they have their sleeper agents on deck ready to step up to the plate.
This is permitted when a person abandons their spouse, commits physical adultery or dies