Marriage

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For those who love the Creator and choose to walk the MaShiYaCh way, having the over standing that they are an open target all while being humble (willing to be humiliated) is paramount. Time is short and there is NO place in the army of YaHuWaH for someone’s pride and fleshly desires. Due to the subject of marriage not being properly taught, most people rush into a BaRiYTh (H1285 covenant, treaty, pledge, ordinance between ALaHiYM and man) like marriage, become one-flesh (have sexual intercourse / join RuWaCh’s) and then years later realize their choices were outside of how YaHuWaH originally created marriage. Out of frustration, people pray for YaHuWaH to get them out of a situation that THEY chose to be in, instead of having faith, knowing that the grace of YaHuWShuWA is sufficient in ANY situation (YaHuWShuWA 1:9 “Joshua” and 2 Corinthians 12:9). Being accountable and obedient to YaHuWaH is huge and this is why the Christian church is so weak. They don’t want anyone to keep them accountable for their actions, especially when it comes to their marriage so they run from the truth, hold on to emotion, play the victim and often times decide to fix or rectify the situation themselves, via divorce. We who are ambassadors of truth stand on the front line for YaHuWaH ALaHiYM, over standing that our lives are exposed. The MaShiYaCh hung on the tree naked and EXPOSED to the world, so we who walk in his footsteps are NOT exempt. ShAuWL (Paul) boldly stated that people should know his affairs and this is for edification purposes for the body of MaShiYaCh (Ephesians 6:20-24). Exposing yourself opens up all details allowing all who are involved to to get a full understanding (MaShaL 4;5-9 “Proverbs”). Those of us who are in a QaDaSh marriage have a huge role to play, and this is NOT a game to the Most High. How can the light of YaHuWaH’s QaDaSh shine bright if they are living in their own bubble, NOT sharing or publishing YaHuWaH’s truth in ALL they do?


the race

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Many start this race in marriage, proclaiming to the world and to a “GOD” that they will adhere to the covenant and complete the course. But along the way and due to distractions, they stumble and fall off. Not wanting to take accountability for their choice of action, so many pray to the Creator to remove them from their race, so they can start another marathon. They choose the easy way out, instead of having faith in YaHuWaH (like scripture says) for strength and to deal with it in HIS timing.

James 2:14

14 What doth it profit, my brethren, though a man say he hath faith, and have not works? can faith save him?

Divorce and remarriage have always been a sensitive subjects, especially within the Christian churches, one that doesn't get discussed often and when it is discussed, it doesn't fully align with scripture. Even those who follow the pagan religion of Christianity know what the bible says about a non-scriptural divorce; but due to the misunderstanding of the word of truth (via carnal interpretations), most marriages are looked at like pieces of clothing. If a shirt does NOT fit anymore after a person has gained weight, they throw it away and get a new one that fits. This worldly concept is very dangerous and is out of YaHuWaH’s order. When it comes to marriage, the difference between the masses and those who walk in the truth is, YaHuWaH’s elect are NOT only hearers, but doers! Marriage is NOT a laughing matter and is NOT to take lightly. For those who are currently in a marriage or those who are seeking to marry AND have made up their minds to live for YaHuWaH and His truth YaHuWShuWA (the word made flesh), pray and seek guidance of the scripture, the QaDaSh RuWaCh, and of those who are in a QaDaSh marriage.

First, ALWAYS seek ye first the kingdom of ALaHiYM and HIS righteousness (NOT your own), and everything else after that YaHuWaH will take care of. Step one, put and DO YaHuWaH’s work FIRST and be faithful in that, and in due season (if YaHuWaH sees fit) THEN he MAY bring you one who will help fulfill THEIR purpose, which is YaHuWaH’s work! When petitioning YaHuWaH for a spouse, ask YaHuWaH to give you who HE wants for you, and in HIS timing, NOT who YOU think YOU want in YOUR timing. When we are led by the RuWaCh and simply obey the word, there is NO confusion, but when we are impatient, and let our emotions fuel our actions (especially in chaotic situations we choose), THEN we are out of YaHuWaH’s order. As YaHuWaH’s chosen, we should not be worrying about finding a spouse, or arguing / crying to YaHuWaH about why He hasn’t given us what WE want! Focus on HIS work and HIS will first (NOT our own), your time will come when YaHuWaH deems you ready! STOP WORRYING!

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MaThaThiYaHuW 6:21-24 “Matthew”

24 No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve ALaHiYM and mammon.

25 Therefore I say unto you, Take no thought for your life, what ye shall eat, or what ye shall drink; nor yet for your body, what ye shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment?

26 Behold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feedeth them. Are ye not much better than they?

27 Which of you by taking thought can add one cubit unto his stature?

28 And why take ye thought for raiment? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they toil not, neither do they spin:

29 And yet I say unto you, That even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these.

30 Wherefore, if ALaHiYM so clothe the grass of the field, which to day is, and to morrow is cast into the oven, shall he not much more clothe you, O ye of little faith?

31 Therefore take no thought, saying, What shall we eat? or, What shall we drink? or, Wherewithal shall we be clothed?

32 (For after all these things do the Gentiles seek:) for your heavenly Father knoweth that ye have need of all these things.

33 But seek ye first the kingdom of ALaHiYM, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.

34 Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.




We as the elect should NOT be following YaHuWaH’s word because we want something in return, NO we obey YaHuWaH because we love him. It’s like a child who obeys his father regarding doing his chores, ONLY because that child knows he will be rewarded for doing so. Whether that child receives praise or not for doing work that is required of him is irrelevant. A child doing chores in the father’s house is mandatory work, and you don’t get points for doing soothing you are suppose to do. Today’s modern day society is so driven on back pats, outward recognition or praise, and the “Hey look at me” or “Look what I got / did” mentality. Show us one time in scripture where Ha’MaShiYaCh YaHuWShuWA or his disciples ever showed that type of mindset.

They were humble, obedient and diligently put the things of the kingdom FIRST. The scriptures mentions apostle KhaPhA (Peter) had a wife, but we all know he left her to do the work of the MaShiYaCh (MaThaThiYaHuW 8:14-18 “Matthew”, Mark 1:29-34 and Luke 4:38-41). Yes, the disciples knew if they obeyed and did the work of YaHuWaH that their reward was ShaMaH, but they didn’t obey because they wanted things of THIS earth bestowed upon them (this included a QaDaSh spouse). The scriptures don’t explain if KhaPhA’s wife was QaDaSh or not, but it does teach a very important lesson. Even if you do have or obtained a QaDaSh marriage, you then have to be OK with letting is go for YaHuWaH’s work! Understand this, If YaHuWaH NEVER brings us a spouse because HE has us doing HIS work, SO BE IT! This truth walk is NOT about us, it’s about esteeming YaHuWaH and us as his elect showing the world obedience! This is why the truth walk is so difficult and NOT popular, it requires obedience NOT sacrifice.

In the world, people proudly sacrifice their time, money, integrity and even their entire family to gain that promotion at their job, or give everything up to make it big in Hollywood. When it comes to the things of the kingdom, YaHuWaH doesn’t want sacrifice, He WANTS obedience (ALaPh ShaMuWAL 15:22-24 “1 Samuel”)! The masses today are quick to divorce because it’s a quick fix, but as we stated earlier, This truth walk is NOT easy”, and you have to be called to walk this path. Scripture reminds us that many are called but FEW are chosen (MaThaThiYaHuW 22:14 “Matthew”). This also pertains to a QaDaSh marriage. Few are chosen to hear the truth, and even fewer STAY in marriages to allow YaHuWaH to get the esteem in how HE sees fit, NOT in how they think YaHuWaH should get the esteem. It takes a strong, confident and ShaLuWM filled RuWaCh to obey YaHuWaH especially in unequally yoked situations that people put themselves into. Also, just because a couple IS equally yoked in a worldly marriage, doesn’t mean it will last. Without the RuWaCh of truth (YaHuWShuWA) in both vessels, that marriage will NEVER hit on all cylinders. What good is it to have a V12 sports car that looks great on the outside, but inside the engine only fires on two cylinders. When tested in a drag race against another REAL sports car, it will for sure lose!




Matthew 15:8

Titus 1:16

1 John 2:4

1 John 3:6




In the ABaRiY (aka Hebrew) culture the man was and is ALWAYS the head of the home. Divorce for an ABaRiY couple was NOT an option nor was it even a thought. The ABaRiY lifestyle and culture was centered on serving their ALaHiYM YaHuWaH in truth, this why scripture warned against marrying outside the ABaRiY culture. In the ancient ABaRiY culture, NO matter what happened in regards to the wife, the man remains in position and doesn’t deviate the course. NOT once do we read, or are we commanded that the man is authorized to leave a marriage.


I got your 6

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We who are in the truth look with the RuWaCh (spirit) eyes and we over stand that this is a RuWaCh battle. The same goes for a QaDaSh marriage, Ha’ShaTaN wants to kill YaHuWaH’s elect on the battlefield. A husband and wife on the battlefield and in the truth vow to have each other’s 6. When the husband leaves his wife, he removes her covering, leaving her 6 defenseless and open to the enemies attack. Can you image running into battle, sword drawn only to find that you were left to fight alone. Imagine if YaHuWaH broke His spiritual vow to us for reasons outside of what we agreed. Although YaHuWaH did divorce YaShRAL for spiritual adultery, the Creator STILL has our 6 by way of His son YaHuWShuWA.

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Even in a psychical marriage a spouse’s 6 can be exposed, this is why you must truly know who your partner is in the RuWaCh. In most marriages, facades can be put up to the world and portrayed as though that marriage is totally rock solid (financially stable, nice big house, fancy cars, happy family, material possessions, etc.), but in reality it was build on sand / falsehood (MaThaThiYaHuW 7:24-27 “Matthew”). This is why its NEVER wise to rush into a relationship, but allow YaHuWaH to show you what needs to be seen. Sometimes a foreign or strange man / woman wont reveal or expose themselves until a particular time.

There are various stories in scripture where intermarriage (outside culture or unequally yoked) was quite frequent in early ABaRiY society. The scriptures are full of ABaRiY men marrying foreign women. Abraham marries Keturah, who couldn’t have been a daughter of Israel as Israel (Abraham’s grandson) had not yet been born. Judah married Shu’a the Canaanite, Joseph married Asenath, daughter of the Egyptian priest Potiphera, MaShaH (Moses) married Zipporah (daughter of the Midian priest Jethro), the kings of Judea married all sorts of foreign princesses, and the list goes on.

Despite this apparent openness to intermarriage, the disapproval of this practice within the ABaRiY culture was apparent. Foreign women are often presented as temptresses (MaShaL 5:1-22 “Proverbs”). In addition to presenting foreign women as temptresses, some biblical stories flat-out caution against marrying foreign women, no one more than the story of Samson.


ALaHiYM 14:1-3 “Judges”

1 And Samson went down to Timnath, and saw a woman in Timnath of the daughters of the Philistines.

And he came up, and told his father and his mother, and said, I have seen a woman in Timnath of the daughters of the Philistines: now therefore get her for me to wife.

Then his father and his mother said unto him, Is there never a woman among the daughters of thy brethren, or among all my people, that thou goest to take a wife of the uncircumcised Philistines? And Samson said unto his father, Get her for ME; for she pleaseth ME well.״

4 But his father and his mother knew not that it was of YHWH, that he sought an occasion against the Philistines: for at that time the Philistines had dominion over Israel.



This seems to be a case of “love at first sight” for Samson. He saw this woman and he instantly wanted to marry her. Samson said “She pleases me well literally, “she is right in his eyes.” What Samson was really focused on was how this woman made him feel and how things looked to himself, NOT how they looked to YaHuWaH. Love at first sight is a powerful, but is also a very dangerous thing. It is entirely possible for us to fall in love with someone that we have no business falling in love with, which was exactly the case with Samson. Love at first sight feels wonderful, but doesn’t last in its initial form forever. We can be attracted more to the feeling of love itself than the person we focus upon, whom we don’t really know at first sight. This is again, why we must be patient, not rush and let YaHuWaH reveal what we need to see.

As we read, Delilah pleased Samson’s flesh, and bound by romantic feelings / emotion, many people demand from YaHuWaH a mate OUT of YaHuWaH’s will. What we have to over stand is that Ha’ShaTaN also knows the desires of all men and women. The adversary has spent centuries studying the ways of mankind, and will use the desires of the heart to stop the MaLAK of YaHuWaH. This is again why the heart / mind of YaHuWaHs warriors should be on the work of the ABa YaHuWaH.

When Samson demanded the Philistine for his wife, this showed a sinful disregard for his parents and for YaHuWaH’s caution regarding women from pagan nations. Often times in life, the voice of your MaShPaChaH can be very important because they are outside of the emotion and seen clear. As we see Samson’s parents attempted to counsel him otherwise, but Samson allowed himself to be swept away by HIS emotion, passion and was determined to bring into fruition HIS OWN desires. Everyone knows the story, no doubt it probably started off great, but it doesn’t end well for Samson. Delilah swoons Samson with her lips (physically and via soft conversation), and then finally gives him a haircut, which leads to his demise. There are warnings in scriptures but it doesn’t forbid marrying non-Israelite outright (this is OUR free will). But in DaBaRiYM 7 (Deuteronomy) it lists seven Canaanite nations who are completely off-limits (the Hittites, Girgashites, Amorites, Canaanites, Perizzites, Hivites, and Jebusites).

DaBaRiYM 7:1-5 “Deuteronomy”

When YHWH thy ALaHiYM shall bring thee into the land whither thou goest to possess it, and hath cast out many nations before thee, the Hittites, and the Girgashites, and the Amorites, and the Canaanites, and the Perizzites, and the Hivites, and the Jebusites, seven nations greater and mightier than thou;

And when YHWH thy ALaHiYM shall deliver them before thee; thou shalt smite them, and utterly destroy them; thou shalt make no covenant with them, nor shew mercy unto them:

Neither shalt thou make marriages with them; thy daughter thou shalt not give unto his son, nor his daughter shalt thou take unto thy son.

For they will turn away thy son from following me, that they may serve other gods: so will the anger of YHWH be kindled against you, and destroy thee suddenly.

But thus shall ye deal with them; ye shall destroy their altars, and break down their images, and cut down their groves, and burn their graven images with fire.


What can we learn from this story, Delilah DID NOT have Samson’s 6. The command to YaShRAL not to intermarry with the pagan nations STILL applies today. A believer in the truth is wise not to marry someone who does not believe the truth (2 Corinthians 6:14). It isn’t because those who do not believe are not lovable, aren’t good enough, not worthy of love, or that they are somehow incapable of being a good marriage partner. No, it’s simply because being a lover of truth means that YaHuWaH through His son YaHuWShuWA Ha’MaShiYaCh, is the most important thing in their life; and when a a lover of truth and a non-believer join together, you have two people who disagree on the most critical and important thing in life.

If someone goes against YaHuWaH’s plan and marries an unbeliever or if someone becomes a believer before their spouse, there are specific commands applying to their situation. The Apostle ShAuWL (Paul) clearly wrote that the believer must do all that is possible to STAY in the marriage, and be the best spouse they can be (1 Corinthians 7:10-16). YaHuWaH did use Samson mightily; but ALaHiYM used Samson despite his sin, NOT because of it. YaHuWaH may have used Samson in a far greater way if he had made himself a clean vessel according to the principle of 2 Timothy 2:20-21.



 
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Romans 1:25 

25 Who changed the truth of ALaHIYM into a lie, and worshiped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. AMaN.

This is a trap that so many married couples get caught in, they get swept away by all the emotion and physical affection of their relationship. This sensory overload can cause YaHuWaH to be quickly put on the back burner. In utter bliss of this newness, a person can fall into snare, putting THEIR spouse’s wants ahead of YaHuWaH’s wants or works (unknowingly). In return, this course of action causes them to reap the benefits, but this is a very dangerous cycle. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to please your spouse, but the spouse’s wants (or OUR own) should NEVER come before YaHuWaH’s work, PERIOD. We as warriors for the Creator, we should NEVER go dark or become M.I.A when working for ABa YaHuWaH! When YaHuWaH is NOT a person’s fiery center, it is very easy for their core to cool down, getting filled with fleshly desires of this life! Remember YaHuWaH does not BaRaK people to fulfill THEIR happiness, the BaRaKaHs come to fulfill YaHuWaH’s purpose (YaShAYaHuW 43:1-7 “Isaiah”).

YaShAYaHuW 43:7 “Isaiah”)

7 Even every one that is called by my name: for I have created him for my glory, I have formed him; yea, I have made him.

Babylon conditions peoples’ minds regarding how relationships should look, but this far from how it was originally created by YaHuWaH in ShaMaH. Just because someone has been through various marriages or has endured a long somber one, doesn’t mean they finally deserve that perfect spouse. It takes two to tango and sometimes people choose their mate too quickly, or they choose to the let the home get of hand, thus having to live with the aftermath (which may take several years to manifest). If someone makes an unwise or selfish choices regarding their mate, this doesn’t mean they are under attack by the enemy or that the world is against them.

Often times its simply means they are outside of YaHuWaH’s will, thus they are reaping what THEY sowed (Galatians 6:7). When people have the attitude of entitlement, in emotion they justify that they deserve this perfect spouse and fairy tale wedding (seen on TV and Disney). They then follow the trends of the masses, wanting elaborate proposals and huge wedding ceremonies. Thousands (sometimes millions) of dollars are spent for this one day or week event, only to find out ends a number of years later. NOT all attacks on marriages are from the devil, so people stop blaming the enemy and take accountability your choices. The truth is the ultimate lie detector, and if a couple says their marriage is ordained (by God, or EVEN YaHuWaH), then it will totally line up with the word (YaHuWShuWA made flesh). This is why watching the fruits of others is so critical (MaThaThiYaHuW 7:16-20 “Matthew”). Scripture reminds us that EVERYTHING YaHuWaH does is in truth, which will ALWAYS line up with His Son.

Psalm 33:4 

For the word of YHWH is right; and ALL his works are done in truth.

If you say you are walking in the truth and your marriage is smooth and easy with no strife (from friends, family and loved ones), then maybe you aren’t on Ha’ShaTaN’s (the adversaries) hit list! The enemy will attack ALL those who stand boldly and proclaim YaHuWaH and YaHuWShuWA in all aspects of their lives, for those are the REAL threat to their kingdom. Ha’ShaTaN is NOT worried about those who are lukewarm, stagnant, distracted and inconsistent in the things of YaHuWaH. It’s Not that YaHuWaH can’t make it a fairy tale, but take an account of all the relationships in scripture of all those who obeyed YaHuWaH or YaHuWShuWA. It was NOT smooth nor easy, and for those who decided to walk after YaHuWShuWA, they put forth action! They obeyed and let go of all their Babylonian conditioning (music, talking, eating, lifestyle, relationships, pagan worship, etc). We are NOT to look back or take back the stench of Babylon and present it to YaHuWaH. I challenge any husband to take underwear from his ex wife, wash it, put it in a box, wrap it with a bow and present it to your wife!

 


The Law of MaShaH

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People often misunderstand Mark 10:9, because they are only looking with carnal eyes, but we in truth over stand that when you allow the RuWaCh to guide you, it will lead you unto all truth (YaHuWChaNaN 16:13 “John”). We know that everything has an origin and when it comes to marriage, that same concept applies. Marriage was created by ALaHiYM in ShaMaH, thus Mark 10:9 is not talking about being put together here in the earthly realm. We know there are lots of couples coming together "in holy matrimony" to fulfill THEIR earthly desires (success here on earth, nice house, nice cars, financial stability).

A very high percentage of these couples have major marital issues later down the years and statics shows that many want out and choose divorce. On the flip side, we have personally seen that even those who DO get married in the true names of YaHuWaH and YaHuWShuWA also end up in divorce. So, for all those who say that Mark 10:9 is talking about YaHuWaH joining couples in "holy matrimony" here on earth in the name of YaHuWaH, we’ve witnessed this to be 100% false! This is a false doctrine and we will explain why as we go. There are many couples who,in "holy matrimony",marry in all kinds of false gods’names which have lasted longer than the couple that got married in the true name of YaHuWaH! So again,this shows that just because a couple marries in the true name of YaHuWaH, this doesn’t mean the Creator put it together! We must begin to allow the RuWaCh of truth (YaHuWShuWA) to guide us in everything we do, and NOT allow self / emotion to lead. When it comes to making the decision on who we eternally join our souls with, let YaHuWaH choose in HIS timing, other wise you could be damning two or more souls.

Divorce statistics taken in 2018 are as follows:

42-45% percent of first marriages end in divorce

60% of second marriages end in divorce

73% of third marriages end in divorce

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We understand MaShaH took it upon himself to try to rectify the putting away of wives. Giving a certificate of divorce according to the Mosaic law was allowed in YaShRAL (Israel), but this was carefully regulated. Under MaShaH’s law, the marriage contract cannot be simply dissolved as soon as one partner wants out; there must be cause for a certificate of divorce. Under MaShaH’s law, even when a certificate was given, no where does it state that a believer can remarry unless certain terms were breached. In Mark we read that the Pharisees where trying to maliciously test YaHuWShuWA regarding the topic of divorce under the Mosaic law.



Mark 10:2-9 

And the Pharisees came to him, and asked him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife? tempting him.

And he answered and said unto them, What did Moses command you?

And they said, Moses suffered to write a bill of divorcement, and to put her away.

And YaHuWShuWA answered and said unto them, For the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept.

But from the beginning of the creation ALaHiYM made them male and female.

For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife;

And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.

What therefore ALaHiYM hath joined together, LET NOT MAN put asunder.


Let’s take a look at the English word “man” in this verse. In the Greek it’s G444 ἄνθρωπος

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Now, let’s take a look at the English word “man” in the ABaRiY, H120 which is אדם

(the ABaRiY letters "אדם" transliterated into English consonants are "DMA" or "ADaM")

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When we humbly make time to learn YaHuWaH’s truths, all of OUR confusion is removed. Notice how we used the word “OUR”, because YaHuWaH is NOT confused regarding HIS word, He knows exactly what He means. When WE attempt to rightly divide YaHuWaH’s word using pride or carnality (and NOT the RuWaCh of truth), we are led astray. When we make time to educate ourselves regarding this verse, we NOW know that ἄνθρωπος and אדם means: a human being / male or female, the species mankind (plural), the twofold nature of man (body and RuWaCh), human individuals, someone, persons, one (two parts joined).

Now, let’s take a look at the ABaRiY word for “asunder”, which is H914 BaDaL

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and in the Greek, it is G5563

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In order to over stand Mark 10:9, we MUST go back to Ba’RaShiYTh (In the beginning), which is in RuWaCh.


BaRaShiYTh 1:26-27 “Genesis”

26 And ALaHiYM said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth.

27 So ALaHiYM created man in his own image, in the image of ALaHiYM created he him; male and female created he them.

MaThaThiYaHuW 19:6 “Matthew”

Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore ALaHiYM hath joined together, let not man put asunder


We read that what YaHuWaH has put together (created in ShaMaH, NOT in holy matrimony on earth) LET NO MAN put asunder, meaning that in YaHuWaH’s original blue print, a husband or wife CANNOT depart, be divided in two, withdraw or divorce (male and female are one whole RuWaCh). So, what YaHuWaH created which is a whole being, male and female, masculine and feminine, LET NO MAN (as in mankind, human race or an individual person) put asunder or divorce! This a lines perfectly with the word because later, ChuWaH (Eve) was created from ADaM’s rib, why? Because they were originally created as one whole piece, male and female. ALaHiYM DIDN’T needto breath life into ChuWaH, because it was already there when they were first created as one. The feminine RuWaCh was then pulled from ADaM, and formed from the rib (which purpose is to protect the heart / mind). How beautiful is that YaHuWaH created the mans one flesh (the female part) to protect her Lion’s heart and mind. She will constantly cover her Lion, keep him accountable and have his back in the RuWaCh.

This also means she will warn her Lion of any dangers by way of the RuWaCh, because she is lead by the RuWaCh and NOT emotion. So many times the advice of a QaDaSh and virtuous wife is ignored, only to later find her words of love (from the RuWaCh) was sound. ALL women have protective instincts, because it is part of their RuWaCh DNA, but AChuWTh’s that walk in the truth of YaHuWShuWA and are focused on the work of YaHuWaH are guided by RuWaCh and NOT due to the chaos circumstance at hand. Taking advice from those who’s fruits continually show they are in bed with Babylon (act and talk ghetto, glory worldly things), is NOT wise (ZaMaR 1:1-3 “Psalm”). Lions, if YaHuWaH has BaRaKD you with AChuWTh’s (in the truth) in your life, take heed to their words. They can give wisdom and provide great insight lead by the RuWaCh of truth. In times of contention, often times your sisters can see clearer when they are outside of the mud looking in! One things for sure, we should NEVER be too proud to ask the advice from our MaShPaChaH, and MaShPaChaH meaning those who we know are walking in truth and focused on YaHuWaH first!


One Flesh

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BaRaShiYTh 2:24 “Genesis”

24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be ONE FLESH.



They shall become one flesh; this passage forms the foundation for the Bible’s understanding of marriage and family. Both YaHuWShuWA (MaThaThiYaHuW 19:5 “Matthew”) and ShAuWL (Ephesians 5:31) quoted it in reference to marriage. The institution of monogamous marriage, home, and family as the basic medium for the propagation of the race and the training of the young is so common to human history that people seldom pause to reflect on how or why such a custom came into being. Adam and Eve are the original family or blue print and this is YaHuWaH’s ideal family. This isn’t polygamy, concubinage, the keeping of mistresses, adultery, homosexual co-habitation, promiscuity, living together outside the marriage bond, or serial marriage. This is YaHuWaH’s IDEAL for the family, and even when people don’t live up to it, it is STILL important to set it forth as YaHuWaH’s ideal.

The idea of one flesh from the masses’ standpoint is taken by many to express sexual union. While sexual union is certainly related to the idea of one flesh, it is only one part of what it means to be one flesh. There are important spiritual dimensions to being one flesh, and ShAuWL (Paul) makes it very clear that a sexual union has one flesh implications. Even when we don’t intend so, a man having sex with a prostitute causes his RuWaCh to join with hers (1 Corinthians 6:16). Husband and wife become true “one flesh” under YaHuWaH’s favor. In extramarital sex, the partners become “one flesh” under YaHuWaH’s curse.

In this sense and in YaHuWaH’s eyes, there is no such thing as “casual sex.” Every sexual relationship at the very least creates a one flesh bond. The bond will either be something beautiful or it will be something grotesque. Just because sex is taking place in marriage doesn’t mean it is truly fulfilling YaHuWaH’s purpose of bonding together a QaDaSh one-flesh relationship. They shall become one flesh; though an initial bond in a one flesh relationship can be formed at the first sexual relationship a couple has, the fullness of what YaHuWaH wants to do in the one flesh relationship takes time. The deepest and most intimate bond, are the two becoming one in marriage. The man cleaving to his wife. This is basic, this is the beginning of things, this is how YaHuWaH started it, and this is how YaHuWaH intended it to be. 

Man had difficulty living up to YaHuWaH's plan and to YaHuWaH's order. When YaHuWShuWA came, He sought to bring man back to YaHuWaH's basic design and purpose; and thus, YaHuWShuWA was teaching the sacredness of the marriage vows and the endurance of the marriage vows. The Pharisees, recognizing now a difference between what YaHuWShuWAA was saying and what the law of MaShaH said, were seeking to trap YaHuWShuWA, showing that He was teaching other than the law. What did YaHuWShuWA do? He went back and antedated MaShaH’s law. YaHuWShuWA said, "In the beginning it wasn't so. For in the beginning, YaHuWaH made them male and female, and for this cause shall a man leave his mother and father and shall cleave to his wife and they two are no more twain, but one flesh. And it was because of the hardness of your hearts that MaShaH said, let him give her a writing of divorcement". Because man's heart was hard and would not come to YaHuWaH's divine ideal, the law of divorce was established but that was NEVER YaHuWaH's original plan.


The English word “twain” in the Greek is G1417 δύο and means two (or separate pieces).

So many get married wanting to keep their old life, but just like when we come into the knowledge of the truth and choose to be QaDaSh, we are now new and one with the MaShiYaCh. We let go of the things of our old life and start a new.

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MaThaThiYaHuW 19:6 “Matthew”

Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore ALaHiYM hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

 

The English word “twain” in the ABaRiY is H8147 ShaNiYM

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Scripture says, “In the beginning it was NOT so”. For this reason, we obey and come back to the beginning, which YaHuWShuWA also went back to, the basic purposes of YaHuWaH in marriage. Because of the hardness of mans’ hearts and his inability to obey YaHuWaH, we can now look at society (and the world today) and clearly see the multitude of problems that have arisen out of the hardness of mans’ hearts, in leaving the basic beginning purposes of YaHuWaH in marriage. There's something wrong today with our whole concept of love. In today’s modern day, you frequently hear a husband or a wife say, "Well I never really loved them, I don't think I loved them, I don't think I ever loved them". If you don’t love yourself, you can’t love back, so DON’T get married! Where is your head? What are you thinking about? That's a terrible and selfish thing to say to your mate, "Well, I don't think I ever really loved you". It's tragic.

 Today’s modern-day dating system is a joke. One of the basic problems is that couples are getting deeply involved physically, without even knowing each other’s RuWaCh. Relationships are predicated far too much on the physical and not enough on the spiritual. One characteristic of true love is that it is patient and it will wait for what YaHuWaH ordained in HIS timing. Any person that tries to hustle someone into bed before they’re married TRULY doesn't love you with the kind of agape love that you should want your spouse to love you with. Get rid of them. That's the whole problem, couples are getting married without really knowing each other, without truly loving each other and without truly understanding what marriage is in YaHuWaH’s eyes. Too much emphasis is placed on not being able to be alone, combining incomes for financial stability, physical aspects, material possessions, self pleasure, pride and fleshly desires which is NOT true love. True love will wait and there should be beautiful openness in a QaDaSH marriage. ADaM and ChaWaH (Eve) were both naked and they weren't ashamed, why? Because they shouldn't be, the two are one flesh.

Giving your spouse a bill a divorce (for uncleanness or adultery) still puts a person back under the Mosaic Law (Law of MaShaH), which was fulfilled when YaHuWShuWA died on the tree. MaShaH permitted separation, but YaHuWShuWA reminded them that in separation you continue married and anything you do with another partner (who is not your spouse) is considered adultery. We also understand that adultery can mean spiritual, but we will get to that. The word “separation” in the Greek is G630, apoluo from G575 and G3089 meaning; to free fully, i.e. (literally) relieve, release, dismiss (reflexively, depart), or (figuratively) let die, pardon or (specially) divorce. It is used many times throughout the New Testament such as when Pilate wanted to “apoluo” YaHuWShuWA (Luke 23:20), meaning let him go, NOT divorce him. In AShaH 28:18 (Acts), ShAuWL (Paul) is referring to “being let go” by the Romans, NOT being divorced by them. Apoluo is referring to being separated from, while bill of divorce refers to a legal divorce of marriage. Even with cause, divorce was never to be seen as a preferred or easy option. The ABaRiY word H3748 KaRiYThuWTh, translated to the English word “divorce” has as its root the idea of "cutting apart, cut off a body part or covenant, behead, cut out, eliminate, kill, permit perish". This is the amputation of that which is one flesh.




YaRaMiYaHuW 3:6-8 “Jeremiah”

And I saw, when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away, and given her a bill of divorce; yet her treacherous sister Judah feared not, but went and played the harlot also.




Here we read that YaHuWaH saw YaShRAL committed adultery and He put her away. We know YaShRAL didn’t commit physical adultery against YaHuWaH so it must mean spiritual adultery. We see in the ABaRiY that the English word “adultery” is H5003 NAPh נאפ (the ABaRiY letters "נאפ" transliterated into English consonants are "PAN" or "NAPh").

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What we find is that adultery can also be spiritual via idolatrous worship. Remember that back then, the nations were actually worshiping objects (made of wood and stone) and lifting hands and songs of praise to the sun (BaAL), moon, trees, sky, etc. These people were in daily communion with their false idolatrous gods, literally bowing down and giving esteem to these false ALaHiYMs. We see that these types of actions are grounds for divorce.

Now let’s take a deeper look at the English word “divorce” in ABaRiY, which is H3748 KaRiYThuWTh

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KaRiYThuWTh’s root word is H3772, KaRaTh

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In the above verse (YaRaMiYaHuW 3:8 “Jeremiah”), we read that YaHuWaHput her away” (“her” meaning YaShRAL / Israel), which in the ABaRiY is the word H7971 “ShaLaCh”, meaning to send away, cast out or to put away!

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In the ABaRiY culture, divorce is something similar to cutting up a living body, like a surgical operation. Think of it like an operation that is so violent that it cannot be done without almost killing a person; but in extreme cases it is a desperate and necessary remedy. It’s more like having your legs cut off than like dissolving a business partnership. MaShaH commands that any divorce be sealed with a certificate of divorce. In other words, it was not enough for a man to just declare "we're divorced" to his wife. The divorce had to be recognized legally just as the marriage had been, so a certificate of divorce (a legal document) must be issued, and properly served (put in her hand).


Let’s take a quick look at the word “marriage”, which in ABaRiY is H5772, AuWNaH

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So, this is telling us that in the ABaRiY culture anyone who was living and sleeping / having sex together were considered married in YaHuWaH’s eyes. This is again why it’s extremely important to make the time to learn the truth and to ask YaHuWaH to give you a spouse in HIS timing. The number of true adulteries that YaHuWaH continues to see (since HIS creation of the one RuWaCh’s in ShaMaH) must be heart breaking for him.

In DaBaRiYM 24:1 (Deuteronomy), MaShaH talks about the uncleanness a husband may find in his wife, this is described as grounds of divorce in the Mosaic Law and indicates that a certificate of divorce could not be written for just any reason. It had to be founded on two important clauses. In ancient times some Rabbis (teachers) defined uncleanness as anything in the wife which might displease the husband. At the time of YaHuWShuWA, some Rabbis selfishly taught that if a wife burned her husband's breakfast, he could divorce her. But YaHuWShuWA carefully and properly defined what uncleanness is, the master said, “whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery (MaThaThiYaHuW 19:9 “Matthew”). YaHuWShuWA rightly understood that uncleanness refers to sexual immorality, a broad term referring to sexual sin, which includes, but is not restricted to, sexual intercourse with someone who is not their spouse. The ABaRiY word H2932 TaMAH, (translated to the English as “uncleanness”) means sexual immorality.

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Let’s take a look at its root word H2930, TaMA

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In the Greek, its G4202: Porneia, meaning fornication / sexual immorality. This is also where the words Porno and Pornography (as in movies) originate from.

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Porneia root word is G4203 porneuo

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According the Law of MaShaH, if a husband finds some uncleanness in his wife, he has the right to give his wife a certificate of divorce. But he is NOT obligated to do so. It must also be that she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some uncleanness in her. In other words, it must be that the husband is SO troubled at his wife's sexual immorality (not the occasional partaking of pagan customs) that he simply CANNOT look upon her with favor in his eyes any more. The lack of favor in his eyes must be because of her uncleanness. Notice one of the ways the spouse can become unclean is by way of idolatry. In the ABaRiY the word for idolatry is H8655 TaRPhiYM.

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Just like in the Greek word Porniea, the ABaRiY word also talks about idolatry, which is any image, object, person (like a healer), family idol (something passed down / tradition) or shrine that is worshiped or H7812: “ShaChaH” in the ABaRiY.

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So, when people go to church to sing, praise, raise their hands to, kneel to pray / bow down and give esteem to the false name and image of Jesus, they are idolaters. We also read in the Greek that a person can defile themselves by eating things that are sacrificed unto idols. Scripture is very clear regarding idolaters:

1 Corinthians 6:9-11 

Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of ALaHiYM? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor IDOLATERS, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,

10 Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of ALaHiYM.

11 And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the master YaHuWShuWA, and by the RuWaCh of our ALaHiYM.



As we mentioned earlier, let us NOT mistake idolatry with the occasional pagan practices of the masses (New Years, Valentine’s Day, Easter, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, 4th of July, Halloween and Christmas). DON’T get it twisted, both are frowned upon by the most high YaHuWaH, but idolatry is the constant worship and bowing down to a image, object, a person (like a healer) or shrine. There is a difference between worshiping a Christmas tree (as did the worshipers of the groves in ancient times), then when someone puts up a pagan Christmas tree for two months out of the year. HOWEVER, both are a stench in YaHuWaH’s nostrils and both cause separation with the Creator. Now that we have educated ourselves on what spiritual adultery is, these occasional acts of pagan customs DO NOT give grounds for a believer to divorce their spouse!

YaHuWShuWA explained in MaThaThiYaHuWaH 19:8 (Matthew) that MaShaH permitted men to divorce their wives (because of the hardness of their hearts), but from the beginning it was NOT so. BaRaShiYTh 1:26-27 (Genesis) reminds us of this, because it takes witness that ALaHiYM made them male AND female (one whole RuWaCh). Take note, all RuWaChs were created BEFORE ALaHiYM created the physical body from the dust of the earth, and THEN was given the breath / RuWaCh of life (BaRaShiYTh 2:7-24 “Genesis”). Due to disobedience (the fall of ADaM / mankind), there was a division (refer to Paul’s audio teaching during the fellowship), thus symbolically splitting the RuWaChs apart. YaHuWShuWA rectified the matter of divorce and reduced the ordinance of marriage back to its origins / RaShiYTh: “They two shall be one flesh”, not to be easily separated, and therefore divorce is not to be allowed. Only in the case of adultery (sexual and idolatry), which breaks the marriage covenant; but he that puts away his wife upon any other pretense, causes her to commit adultery, and him also that shall marry her when she is thus divorced. Those who lead others into temptation to sin, or leave them in it, or expose them to it, make themselves guilty of their sin, and will be accountable for it. This is one way of being partaker with adulterers (Psalms 50:18).

If a woman did not have a hard heart, she would never commit sexual immorality against her husband, and there would be no need for divorce. If a husband did not have any hardness in his heart, he could forgive and still look upon his wife with favor in his eyes, even though she was guilty of sexual immorality / fornication / uncleanness / occasional pagan customs. But because YaHuWaH knows there is hardness in our hearts (both in the offending and offended parties), YaHuWaH permits divorce, but from the beginning it was NOT so! Some Rabbis back in ancient times taught that it was the duty of a man of ALaHiYM to divorce his wife if she displeased him, but both MaShaH and YaHuWShuWA make it clear that YaHuWaH permits divorce in certain circumstances, but NEVER commands it. Regarding biblical grounds for divorce, according to 1 Corinthians 7:15 (abandonment by an unbelieving spouse), the believer certainly does have permission to divorce, and YaHuWaH does not "hold it against them", but again the believer must stay in the position of marriage. Most people think that in ancient YaShRAL (Israel), only husbands had the right to divorce their wives, and wives did not have the right to divorce. In Mark 10:12YaHuWShuWA, “says and if a woman divorces her husband and marries another”, clearly he is saying a wife had the right to divorce.

One of the many things learned through this journey and prayer with ABa YaHuWaH, that we must remember is that YaHuWShuWA came to bring division between those who have chosen to walk this set apart life and those who have not, regardless of the type of relationship between the QaDaSh and the worldly. So, when a person comes into the knowledge of the truth, chooses to walk in truth, is pure about it and their spouse refused to, then they must trust in YaHuWaH to rectify it, NOT themselves. We often forget that marriage is a two way street and the man being the head is accountable for the order of the home. If things got out of hand over the years because the man was weak or slack while on duty, he must take accountability.

Joey walks to his friend’s house to play one day. They both are feeling creative so they decide to make various pictures using paint. They both end up getting paint everywhere, splashing paint on the walls and on the carpet. Joey realizes just how much work it’s going to take to clean up the room, so he leaves to avoiding cleaning up the mess he helped to create! As a believer, if we DON’T have faith that YaHuWaH will rectify our marriage, how HE sees fit, and in HIS timing, why even believe in the Creator?.

ABaBiY 11:6 “Hebrews”

But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to ALaHiYM must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.

YaHuWShuWA 1:9 “Joshua”

Have not I commanded thee? Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for YHWH thy ALaHiYM is with thee whithersoever thou goest.

2 Corinthians 12:9-10

And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of MaShiYaCh may rest upon me.

10 Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for MaShiYaCh’s sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong.

Additionally, YaHuWShuWA’s blood that was shed on the tree brings freedom (mentally and spiritually) to all those who WANT to be free, are willing to be obedient to his word, and vow to live the QaDaSh (set part) life. With this freedom comes eternal ShaLuWM NO MATTER the circumstance, so stand and let YaHuWaH work it out! Scripture reminds us that WITHOUT faith it is impossible to please YaHuWaH ALaHiYM.



Remarriage according to Scripture



DaBaRiYM 24: 2-4 “Deuteronomy”

And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man's wife.

And if the latter husband hate her, and write her a bill of divorcement, and giveth it in her hand, and sendeth her out of his house; or if the latter husband die, which took her to be his wife;

Her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled; for that is abomination before YHWH: and thou shalt not cause the land to sin, which YHWH thy ALaHiYM giveth thee for an inheritance.

5 When a man hath taken a new wife, he shall not go out to war, neither shall he be charged with any business: but he shall be free at home one year, and shall cheer up his wife which he hath taken.


In this example, the women’s former husband who divorced her must not take her back. This is a strong law, saying that if a divorced woman marries again, she could not return to her first husband, should her second marriage end through divorce or death. To break this law was an abomination before YaHuWaH. It seems that it might be a good thing for the first husband and wife to get back together. But this command is made because YaHuWaH wanted both marriage and divorce to be seen as serious, permanent things. One couldn't be married or divorced casually; it had to be carefully thought out because it was permanent. This law would also strengthen the second marriage; it would discourage a spouse from thinking they might as well just leave their second marriage and go back to their first partner.


Scripture does talk about remarrying in DaBaRiYM 24:5 (Deuteronomy). We understand that if a man or woman lost their spouse due to death (via sickness or killed in battle), remarriage is allowed. Back then, being home for one year was the way of honoring and BaRaK’ing the marriage covenant. YaHuWaH allowed men who were newly married to be exempt from military or other state service for one year. Bringing happiness to the wife is an important job for every husband. This does NOT mean the wife is put on a pedestal or that she takes first place over YaHuWaH or YaHuWaH’s work in the husband’s life. The wife is the help mate created to assist the husband in fulfilling YaHuWaH’s work. In Ephesians 5, we see that YaHuWaH emphasizes the role of the husband, which is essential oneness between husband and wife (once again, one flesh / one RuWaCh, just like in the beginning).

The QaDaSh wife longs to take part in and do what her husband does, which is to serve YaHuWaH in all her deeds, just like her husband. Mind, temple and RuWaCh are on the same page and everything they do is to be in line with ABa YaHuWaH. The husband cannot make his wife happy without also bringing ShaLuWM into his own life and home. Conversely, he cannot bring misery into the life of his wife without also bringing misery into his own life. For the QaDaSh wives,their lives should be so intertwined with the Heavenly Father YaHuWaH, that when their QaDaSh husbands look upon them, they see a reflection of themselves! Why? Because again,the man’s other RuWaCh was first created by ALaHiYM as one piece, in the ShaMaH, in the RaShiYTh. The woman comes from the rib of ADaM, and the rib’s main purpose is to protect, especially the heart. A YaHuWaH centered, ShaLuWM filled and QaDaSh coupe is the foundation for a happy home, for we know scriptures reminds us that a bitter or contentious wife makes for a miserable home. 

Proverbs 21:19

19 It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.


Proverbs 27:15 

15 A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike.


Proverbs 21:9 

9 It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.




Warning Against Adultery

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Proverbs 2:17


17 who has left the partner of her youth and ignored the covenant she made before ALaHiYM.


Luke 16:16-18 

16 The law and the prophets were until YaHuWChaNaN: since that time the kingdom of ALaHiYM is preached, and every man presseth into it.

17 And it is easier for heaven and earth to pass, than one tittle of the law to fail.

18 Whosoever putteth away (G530 divorce) his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.


Romans 7:1-5 

Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth?

For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.

So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.

Wherefore, my brethren, ye also are become dead to the law by the body of MaShiYaCh; that ye should be married to another, even to him who is raised from the dead, that we should bring forth fruit unto ALaHiYM.

For when we were in the flesh, the motions of sins, which were by the law, did work in our members to bring forth fruit unto death.


1 Corinthians 6:16-20 

16 What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.

17 But he that is joined unto YaHuWaH is one spirit.

18 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.

19 What? know ye not that your body is the temple of Ha’QaDaSh RuWaCh which is in you, which ye have of ALaHiYM, and ye are not your own?

20 For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify ALaHiYM in your body, and in your spirit, which are ALaHiYM's.


MaShaL 5:1-23 “Proverbs”


My son, attend unto my wisdom, and bow thine ear to my understanding:

That thou mayest regard discretion, and that thy lips may keep knowledge.

For the lips of a strange woman drop as an honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than oil:

But her end is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword.

Her feet go down to death; her steps take hold on hell.

Lest thou shouldest ponder the path of life, her ways are moveable, that thou canst not know them.

Hear me now therefore, O ye children, and depart not from the words of my mouth.

Remove thy way far from her, and come not nigh the door of her house:

Lest thou give thine honour unto others, and thy years unto the cruel:

10 Lest strangers be filled with thy wealth; and thy labours be in the house of a stranger;

11 And thou mourn at the last, when thy flesh and thy body are consumed,

12 And say, How have I hated instruction, and my heart despised reproof;

13 And have not obeyed the voice of my teachers, nor inclined mine ear to them that instructed me!

14 I was almost in all evil in the midst of the congregation and assembly.

15 Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well.

16 Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets.

17 Let them be only thine own, and not strangers' with thee.

18 Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the WIFE OF THY YOUTH.

19 Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.

20 And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger?

21 For the ways of man are before the eyes of YHWH, and he pondereth all his goings.

22 His own iniquities shall take the wicked himself, and he shall be holden with the cords of his sins.

23 He shall die without instruction; and in the greatness of his folly he shall go astray.



Scripture is very clear that the husband is NOT to deal treacherously with the WIFE OF THY YOUTH, and warns of the strange woman. What we have to over stand is that Ha’ShaTaN is out to deceive everyone, especially those who are truly standing for YaHuWaH and YaHuWShuWA. A strange woman will NOT always just come out and say she is a strange woman, often times she doesn’t even know she is a strange woman until the damage is done. Even some of the fallen MaLAK are beautiful and we know the enemy is NOT going to tempt YaHuWaH’s chosen with something or someone that is not pleasing or desirable to them. The only way to truly know if a woman is strange is by way of time, if she is truly sent by YaHuWaH, she will grow, seek and remove herself from all that is Babylon (in speech, friends, music, harlot mentality, etc). Even when dating in the carnal, everyone knows that the first few months DON’T really count because the opposite sex is trying to impress the other. Most of the time, they are only trying to do and say everything to earn points with the other. It’s NOT until later down the road that do the real deeper issues rear their ugly heads! Ask YaHuWaH to give you patience and wisdom if you are dating, but ultimately if you are walking the QaDaSh path, do ABa’s work first and in time, HIS will be done!

We now live in a microwave society and we have been conditioned to want immediate results with the least work. People don’t want to put in the time or work required to obtain the reward. Adam wasn't immediately given the help meet, he was first tasked to do YaHuWaH's work in obedience, then overtime YaHuWaH decided that Adam was faithful in his work, thus he was given a help meet. Scripture bears record in various stories that time and patience are critical. Time and patience causes true emotional and RuWaCh growth. So again let us walk like the ancients and be patient, let YaHuWaH be the author of our love story, NOT us!


The English word “strange” is H2114: ZuWaR in the ABaRiY:

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We see that one of the meanings of ZuWaR is to commit adultery, so a strange woman can cause even the strongest of men (even the elect of YaHuWaH) to commit adultery!

Let’s take a look at a few more scriptures talking about the “WIFE OF THY YOUTH”:

MaLaKiY 2:11-17 Malachi”

11 Judah hath dealt treacherously, and an abomination is committed in Israel and in Jerusalem; for Judah hath profaned the holiness of YHWH which he loved, and hath married the daughter of a strange ALaHiYM.

12 YHWH will cut off the man that doeth this, the master and the scholar, out of the tabernacles of Jacob, and him that offereth an offering unto YHWH of hosts.

13 And this have ye done again, covering the altar of YHWH with tears, with weeping, and with crying out, insomuch that he regardeth not the offering any more, or receiveth it with good will at your hand.

14 Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because YHWH hath been witness between thee and the WIFE OF THY YOUTH, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant.

15 And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a seed of ALaHiYM. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the WIFE OF THY YOUTH.

16 For YHWH, the ALaHiYM of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith YHWH of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.

17 Ye have wearied YHWH with your words. Yet ye say, Wherein have we wearied him? When ye say, Every one that doeth evil is good in the sight of YHWH, and he delighteth in them; or, Where is the ALaHiYM of judgment?


Ok, let’s break all of this down:


The priests sinned by forsaking the wife they married in their youth, breaking the goal of marriage (she is your companion) and the bond of marriage (your wife by covenant).


 Did He not make them one, and the scriptures continually come back to YaHuWaH's goal and plan for marriage as revealed in Genesis 2:18-25. Essential to YaHuWaH's plan for marriage is the essential oneness between husband and wife. One important reason for this oneness is to establish a proper environment for raising YaHuWaH following offspring. There is no doubt that YaHuWaH hates divorce because it destroys what He created in ShaMaH, marriage is YaHuWaH's QaDaSh institution which He loves (Malachi 2:11). Specifically, we can say that YaHuWaH hates divorce for at least three reasons:


1. YaHuWaH hates divorce because it breaks a solemn vow

2. YaHuWaH hates divorce because it is harmful

3. YaHuWaH hates divorce because it illustrates apostasy and damnation


There is no doubt that YaHuWaH hates divorce but permits divorce in particular circumstances (The Creator divorced YaShRAL), though divorce is NEVER commanded. YaHuWaH’s heart is always for repentance, forgiveness, and reconciliation in marriage. Yet because we are fallen and suffer from hardness of heart, YaHuWaH gives permission for divorce in two circumstances. Sexual immorality is valid grounds (Matthew 19:1-9), and so is desertion by an unbelieving spouse (1 Corinthians 7:10-16). Significantly, misery, unhappiness, poverty, or incompatibilities are never given as grounds for divorce. Where there is danger or abuse, separation may be in order in accordance with 1 Corinthians 7:10-11, but the separated couple must live in complete faithfulness to their marriage vows, though they live as separate. If someone does not have Biblical grounds for divorce, YaHuWaH regards them as still married and any subsequent relationship is considered adultery (Matthew 19:8-9). It isn't that you shouldn't divorce for unbiblical grounds; you can't divorce for unbiblical grounds. Nevertheless, if someone divorces with proper grounds, then they are free to remarry (1 Corinthians 7:15).



Once again we see the ABaBiY H7971 “ShaLaCh”, meaning to send away, cast out or to put away, which YaHuWaH hateth!

When we look at the English word “Witness” in the ABaRiY, we see H5749:

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So we read that YaHuWaH affirmed, bore witness, testified, warned, and lifted up the union of marriage, thus defending what he created in the beginning. He goes to say that


The English word “youth” in the ABaRiY is H5271, נעור NAuWaR:

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This is clearly telling us that people should NOT be dealing treacherously with or departing from their first spouse. Remember, marriages in the ABaRiY culture were not like what we are accustomed to,here in today’s modern, materialistic, outward showing, over the top weddings and proposals. Couples were married younger, raised in truth, more mature and were modest / humble.

The English word for “treacherous”in the ABaRiY is H898, BaGaD:

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This is telling the husband that he must NOT depart, be unfaithful, be deceitful, act covertly, dissimulate, or defraud (to trick) his wife. A woman can defraud a man by the way that she dresses, talks, or acts. A man can defraud a woman by improper touching or by talking about a marital commitment that he is not able or intending to carry out. The husband is NOT to dissimulate his wife,i.e.to hide under a false appearance or to conceal or disguise one's true thoughts, feelings, or character. An example of this is,the wife has gained a substantial amount of weight over the years. The husband knows this and is concerned for her health:

wife - “Do I look fat in this dress?”

husband - “NO baby you look great!”

This is a lie and if not truthfully addressed, this will grow into a bigger issue, lying will only pacify the real problem. A lion is a Lion (NOT weak) and will tell his Lioness the truth because he loves her. A true Lioness takes heed to the voice of her Lion and recognizes that it is in love and NOT a personal attack. This also works the other way around. The Lioness will tell her lion the truth because he is her one flesh and a QaDaSh man of YaHuWaH listens. He over stands that her words are of love, and are led by the RuWaCh. In today’s modern-day, most men have become weak, forever putting the women (along with pleasing her desires) above YaHuWaH, and this is out of order! All throughout time nations, kingdoms and families have been torn apart ALL because men put the women first!


MaShAL 31:1-3 “Proverbs”

The words of king Lemuel, the prophecy that his mother taught him.

What, my son? and what, the son of my womb? and what, the son of my vows?

Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings.



ShAuWL talks to the assembly in Ephesus

Ephesians 5:25-33 

25 Husbands, love your wives, even as MaShiYaCh also loved the assembly, and gave himself for it;

26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,

27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.

28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the master the assembly:

30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.

31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.

33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.




Husbands must show Agape love, which has to do with the mind: it is not simply an emotion which rises unbidden in our hearts; it is a principle by which we deliberately live. Agape love doesn’t really have much to do with feelings, it has to do with decisions. You love unconditionally, NOT only because you are receiving gifts during a birthday or holiday, sex or feel good,encouraging words. Because they are one flesh, a husband can spiritually cleanse his wife the same way that YaHuWShuWA cleansed the assembly when on the tree. Scripture says that the husband is to love his wife as his own flesh, so if the man doesn’t truly love himself, he CAN’T truly love his wife, and vice a versa. Scripture gives wisdom saying that NO man hateth his own flesh but nourisheth and cherisheth it.


Let’s take a look at the English word “nourisheth” in the Greek, which is G1625, ἐκτρέφω

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Lets go deeper and look at the root word G5142 τρέφω

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This is telling us that the man shouldn’t hate his own flesh but he should nourish it, to the point that he supplies himself with knowledge and everything convenient or good for him (RuWaCh and temple health). This mindset is to carry over to the wife, the husband is to nourish her up to maturity, to support, to give suck (as to feed), to fatten and instill internal sustenance to his wife,pertaining to the truth of YaHuWaH. The wife is the one who is kept, preserved, guarded, shielded and provided for by the husband. As Ha’MaShiYaCh nourishes and cherishes the assembly, so the husband nourishes and cherishes the wife, and the wife should realize that is her position in the marriage. If the wife is straying from true doctrine, looking back on Babylon, touching tainted things (worldly talk or music, pagan worship / customs, etc ) she is to be corrected by the husband (as a parent would to a child). If the husband is lukewarm and doesn’t walk in the order of YaHuWaH himself, or have a humble RuWaCh (not yielding to true correction) HOW can he lead his wife by example? As a man tills a garden, so should a husband for his wife. Seeding, watering, and pulling weeds is the continual task of a master gardener.

This doesn't mean the wife is worshiped over YaHuWaH. The wife should never cause a husband to sidestep the work of YaHuWaH or distract the man from doing YaHuWaH’s work.




Some husbands think that because ALaHiYM said that they are the head of the home and the wife is obligated to submit to them, that they do not have to be humble, lay down their lives, or be obedient for the benefit of the man. They need to understand the difference in thinking between worldly headship and the headship in ALaHiYM.


· Worldly headship says, “I am your head, so you take your orders from me and must do whatever I want.”

· in ALaHiYM says, “I am your head, so I must care for you and serve you.”

· Worldly submission says, “You must submit to me, so here are the things I want you to do for me.”

· in ALaHiYM submission says, “You must submit to me, so I am accountable before ALaHiYM for you. I must care for you and serve you.”


A man must love his wife as he would his body, as a part of himself. As Eve was a part of Adam, taken out of his side, so the wife is to the man because she is a part of him.

Proverbs 5

Proverbs 6

Pro 6:25-29) The damage adultery does.

With her beauty and allure, the harlot promises to add something to the life of her customer. She promises excitement, pleasure, attention, or any number of other things. Yet she does not and cannot deliver on those promises; she takes away and does not give. The adulteress will prey upon his precious life. Her eyes are singled out because the painted eyes and the luring glances are symptoms of seduction.

Pro 6:30-35) The disgrace adultery brings.

Solomon considered how we may, in some way, excuse a thief who steals to survive. Yet even when that thief is caught, justice would require him to restore what he has stolen and more. The adulterer steals, but not out of necessity and in such a way that true restitution is impossible. To commit adultery (and to commit sexual sin in general) is not only sin against ALaHiYM and others, but also against one’s own soul, his own body (1 Corinthians 6:18-19)

In addition to the ways that sexual immorality brings harm it will also bring disgrace when it is discovered. The jealous husband will often not spare in the day of vengeance and will not be appeased in his anger. His reproach shall not be wiped away; although it be forgiven by YaHuWaH, yet the reproach and scandal of it remains. Sexual immorality offers pleasure and excitement and often romance. It may or may not deliver those things, but even if it does it will also bring wounds and dishonor. It brings wounds to one’s body and soul, and dishonor in the family, congregation, and community.


the Atonement

We ALL should be overjoyed to know that through the blood of Ha'MaShiYaCh YaHuWShuWA we are freed from ALL our past sins and disobedience which were done in our ignorance prior to being graced with the knowledge of the truth. The English word “atonement” is H3722 KaPhaR in the ABaRiY and means to cover, purge, make an atonement, make reconciliation, cover over with pitch, to coat, pacify, propitiate, atone for sin, make atonement for sin and persons by legal rites, to be covered over, to make atonement for, to be covered. YaHuWShuWA was and is the final lamb sacrifice and high priest.

YaHuWShuWA bore his blood on the tree as an atonement for those who sinned and want the way back to YaHuWaH. So this means ALL past sins or disobedience committed in IGNORANCE (or intentional) PRIOR to coming into the knowledge of the truth is wiped away when we repent and cry out ( שוע / “ShuWA” which is the last part of the saviors true name) unto YaHuWaH through His son YaHuWShuWA. Carnal lifestyles, divorced marriages, multiple lustful relationships, being raped or molested, murder, drug addictions, delving into occult practices, pagan idol worship (via worshiping Jesus in church), blaspheming the true names of the Creator and His son, etc. ALL are cast into the sea to forever be forgotten.

MiYaKiYaHuW 7:18-19 “Micah”

18 Who is an ALaHiYM like unto thee, that pardoneth iniquity, and passeth by the transgression of the remnant of his heritage? he retaineth not his anger for ever, because he delighteth in mercy.

19 He will turn again, he will have compassion upon us; he will subdue our iniquities; and thou wilt cast all their sins into the depths of the sea.

However, this does NOT mean people can begin divorcing their current spouse, just because they are NOT living for the truth. NO! If you are in a marriage and have come into the knowledge of the truth and your spouse does NOT want to walk that path with you, scripture says they are covered because the believing spouse is in the truth. Be bold, stand strong and know that YaHuWaH has YOU covered. The grace of his son YaHuWShuWA in us is sufficient and knowing this FACT gives us ShaLuWM and makes us spiritually free, thus being able to stand strong in ANY situation or chaos which belabors our calm. NO MATTER how bad the situation may seem to look in OUR eyes, we DON’T know what YaHuWaH is doing in the background and behind the scenes!!

2 Corinthians 5:7 

(For we walk by faith, not by sight:)

Did AiYuWB (job) leave his wife when she cursed YaHuWaH? NO! AiYuWB stayed the course and let YaHuWaH deal with it! To the carnal eye, the situation that AiYuWB was in looked hopeless, it seemed that EVERYTHING was ending for him.

AiYuWB 2:7-10 “Job”

So went ShaTaN forth from the presence of YHWH, and smote Job with sore boils from the sole of his foot unto his crown.

And he took him a potsherd to scrape himself withal; and he sat down among the ashes.

Then said his wife unto him, Dost thou still retain thine integrity? curse ALaHiYM, and die.

10 But he said unto her, Thou speakest as one of the foolish women speaketh. What? shall we receive good at the hand of ALaHiYM, and shall we not receive evil? In all this did not Job sin with his lips.

ALL sins (when done in IGNORANCE or intentional PRIOR to coming into the knowledge of the truth) are cast into the sea to forever be forgotten, when we choose to obey YaHuWaH and walk in obedience (MiYaKiYaHuW 7:18-19 “Micah”). DO NOT let ANYONE tell you that the blood of YaHuWShuWA doesn’t carry enough power to wash your prior sins committed in IGNORANCE! The key is IGNORANCE, choosing to disobey or turn from correction in order to continue claiming ignorance WILL NOT fly! When dealing with the masses, a person can pull a life long facade, but when dealing with YaHuWaH, in HIS timing it will ALWAYS be exposed (Luke 8:17). Remember, just because a person calls on the true names of YaHuWaH through His son YaHuWShuWA, doesn’t mean they are QaDaSh.

We MUST ALWAYS watch their life to see if they are walking the QaDaSh path and are bearing REAL fruit. This is why most people choose to stay in their own bubble and don’t want to get too personal. This way they can hide their sin or disobedience from others who are ignorant to their situation. When the RuWaCh is REAL in a person, you will see TRUE ShaLuWM and joy consistently in their life, regardless of their circumstance! When a person calls on the true names in humility, and is in obedience unto the word, ONLY then will those names have the power to atone. NO other names have the power to wash a person’s sinful, disobedient RuWaCh clean! This is the whole purpose of the savior YaHuWShuWA’s death, to restore the breach between ADaM (mankind) and YaHuWaH, due to the sins of our fathers’, fathers’ fathers.

 

Atonement, H3722 כפר  (these Hebrew letters "כפר" transliterated into English consonants is "RPK" or "KaPhaR")

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MiYaKiYaHuW 7:18-19 “Micah”

18 Who is an ALaHiYM like unto thee, that pardoneth iniquity, and passeth by the transgression of the remnant of his heritage? he retaineth not his anger for ever, because he delighteth in mercy.

19 He will turn again, he will have compassion upon us; he will subdue our iniquities; and thou wilt cast all their sins into the depths of the sea.

Chose this day to change your old ways and repent for your past sins. Declare unto YaHuWaH through His son YaHuWShuWA that you want to live the QaDaSh life and that you are willing to OBEY Ha’ABa (the father) in ShaMaH (heaven) YaHuWaH. Mind you, It WILL require a huge uncomfortable change, but YaHuWShuWA also had to do something uncomfortable. We are NOT above the MaShiYaCh and we are NOT exempt, this is part of the truth walk. We CAN NOT receive something of great value unless we endure a great trial. NO MATTER what it looks like (a bad marriage, pleasing a spouse, compromise for family, etc), NO situation should become our ALaHiYM and steer us away from obeying YaHuWaH!

ShaMuWTh 20:3-5 “Exodus”

Thou shalt have no other ALaHiYM’s before me.

Thou shalt not make unto thee any graven image, or any likeness of any thing that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth.

Thou shalt not bow down thyself to them, nor serve them: for I YHWH thy ALaHiYM am a jealous ALaHiYM’s, visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children unto the third and fourth generation of them that 

 

Recap Notes:


Divorce


Under the law of MaShaH a spouse is permitted to divorce when:

  1. Your spouse is performing pagan idol worship (G4202, G4203, H8655 and H7812) which is spiritual adultery unto YaHuWaH

  2. Your spouse commits physical adultery (any sexual act with someone other than their spouse)


In both cases you can give a bill of divorce to your spouse, BUT the believer who walks in the truth (YaHuWShuWA) must stay obedient, remain married, and uphold the covenant they made before man and ALaHiYM. They are to put ALL faith in YaHuWaH through HIS son YaHuWShuWA following Romans 8:28, knowing everything will work out for the good for those that love YaHuWaH and are called according to YaHuWaH’s purpose (which is to give all esteem to ABa through their life’s experiences). The grace of the master teacher YaHuWShuWA (which is in the believer) is sufficient, giving strength in ANY situation, making them perfect (complete, needing no one) in their weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9). Knowing this FACT gives the believer NO excuse to leave a marriage unless one or both of the above precepts are breached (EVEN then divorce is still NOT commanded by YaHuWaH). For those who truly walk the path of Ha’MaShiYaCh, know that ABa YaHuWaH will work it ALL out in HIS timing and when HE sees fit. If ABa YaHuWaH does NOT choose to intervene, YaHuWaH is STILL ALaHiYM!


AiYuB 1:20-22 “Job”

20 Then Job arose, and rent his mantle, and shaved his head, and fell down upon the ground, and worshipped,

21 And said, Naked came I out of my mother's womb, and naked shall I return thither: YHWH gave, and YHWH hath taken away; blessed be the name of YHWH.

22 In all this Job sinned not, nor charged ALaHiYM foolishly.


Scripture doesn’t talk about a spouse who is being psychically or sexually abused, and we believe this is because in the ABaRIY culture, NO such thing would have happened. Maybe in other pagan nations this was a practice or even fetish, but among the ABaRiY they were not raised with such disrespect. The ABaRiY Lions loved their Lionesses and the Lionesses reverenced their Lions. These types of abuse are the workings of Ha’ShaTaN and back then, if anyone caught wind that this was happening within the camp, someone would have been stoned! If someone is in this type of relationship when they come into the knowledge of the truth and they truly began living it, YaHuWaH will make a way of escape for them. If, after attempting counsel the abuser chooses not to change, a divorce is in order, for the safety of themselves and any child (ren) involved.

If you have left your spouse for any reason other than what is listed above, you and your ex are now seen as adulterers in YaHuWaH’s eyes. NO ONE has a real magic crystal ball, and just because the marriage has always looked a certain way, we don’t know what YaHuWaH is doing in the background. The believing spouse may be the only way YaHuWaH can have the unbeliever see the truth. When someone takes matters into their own hands (due to emotion, frustration or distraction), they are telling YaHuWaH that HE is not working quickly enough, or within THEIR time frame. It’s very easy for a wife to leave her husband when she’s had several years of no love / support, or when there’s another man who is wanting to love and support her with open arms. This is why when separation does occur, it’s critical we shut out everything and focus 100% on YaHuWaH! If not, we can be sure that Ha’ShaTaN also knows exactly what we desire, and you can bet that they have their sleeper agents on deck ready to step up to the plate.



Remarriage:


According to scripture, remarriage is permitted for a believer ONLY when their spouse abandons them, commits physical adultery, get remarried or dies.


Unlearn, Deprogram and Re-think EVERYTHING you were taught!

 

Once the truth is given to a person, if that person TRULY loves the Creator, YHWH is expecting they make an immediate change, NOT take their sweet time getting there when they feel like it!

 

Acts 17:30

30 And the times of this ignorance YHWH winked at; but now commandeth all men every where to repent 

 

If you DON'T believe us regarding these facts, GOOD! Go do your own research, ASK YOUR PASTOR and find out for yourself, but NOW you cant say "you didn't know!" 

 

2 KaPha 2:21 "Peter"

21 For it had been better for them not to have known the way of righteousness, than, after they have known it, to turn from the holy commandment delivered unto them.

 

ABaRiY 10:26 "Hebrews" 

26 For if we sin willfully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins